I'd like to welcome you to Healing Well and to our chronic pain group, however, what you are doing is illegal. You simply cannot give pain meds to those to whom they are not prescribed. I know you are trying to help, but there is a reason that the Dr's won't give him any of his own......again, it is illegal to do this on your own and you could end up not only loosing your meds, but locked up!
I don't mean to be so very harsh, but I don't think the seriousness of this situation has really hit and believe me, it will hit when you tell him NO MORE! He's gonna be mad!! Stop giving this person meds immediately and tell him/her to go to a Dr for help! If the person is already to the point of addiction, they will need medical intervention to stop using meds they were not supposed to have to start with and you may be named as the person who supplied it to them.
Please take care of this situation this immediately!!
As far as the other situation.....perhaps you should seek out mental health assistance to help you handle the stress of chronic pain and chronic illness. You seem to feel guilty about having things they don't and to have difficulty removing yourself from this position. You are not alone in this! I think all of us feel some guilt sometimes and a very large number (including myself) use a psychologist or psychiatrist to help us deal with the stress of our conditions.
You may also want to go in to the rules and read about your post and then change few things. You can make the changes by clicking on the pencil in the corner. That way you can continue to post, but will be in compliance with the rules.
I hope you find the answers you seek.