I have suffered with neck/upper back problems for nearly 20 years after a car accident. Up until recently (last 8 mths), the usual remedy of muscle relaxers, heat/ice, chiropractor and the occasional sleeping pill worked and I was back on my feet until the next episode. The last 8 mths have been my worst ever I believe that I injured an already damaged back. Needless to say, the pain has been constant and almost every single day. I have learned to "tolerate" episodes, knowing that they would end. I finally had an MRI of my neck back in Sept. Since then, I've seen a Neurosurgeon, who sent me to a Pain Clinic. The doctor did a cervical block, and sent me to physical therapy. The neck feels great now, but in the course, a "new" (meaning probably an already damaged area I didn't feel because my neck hurt so bad) pain spot showed up on my right shoulder blade, so back to the Pain Clinic for trigger point injections. All good for that area now, and of course since then, yet another "new" spot appears. This, of course, is very frustrating to me because the "new" pain I have not learned to tolerate as I had with the pain I knew. Last night was it for me, I couldn't take the pain anymore this week, and I went to the ER. So glad that I did, because the doctor gave me dalaudid, and it sure was a nice break from the pain. Of course she pointed out that I need to see my primary care doctor to work on treatment of my depression. Didn't notice that one, however, it does make sense why I go from crying to anger to frustration over my current condition.
Now for the reason I'm here......My husband is absolutely furious with me over this entire situation. He has expressed his frustration over all of the doctor apts., meds, treatments, physical therapy, and I'm still in pain. I can't make him understand that I truely am trying to get better, that I would love nothing more than to be "normal." Nor can I make him understand that one treatment in one area is not the cure all to all my pain. That more than one "spot" on my back/neck is damaged and that I do not notice all of the problem when one area is screaming in angry pain. He sees me as getting worse, not better, not understanding why after everything I've done lately is not "fixing" the problem. He always says, "Well outside looking in, this is what I see!" He was with me and worried, when it was suspected that the problem could be a "spot" on my brain. Once the neurosurgeon cleared that up (meaning it was nothing on the brain) and diagnosed that I have a pain in the neck, my husband has treated me as a pain in the neck. He has not been with me to the Pain Clinic, he wasn't with me during my treatments, and he's just tired of me being in bed all the time outside of work. And even more frustrated with the fact that th pain is really starting to interfere with my job. I mentioned that maybe I need some time off to rest and heal more by staying home and being able to take all the meds every 4 hours without fear of drowsiness or loopiness. Then return to work hopefully feeling better. It's just a theory. Nope, he's not for that AT ALL. Because what happens if my bosses don't like it and I lose my job?
How can I make him understand? How can I make him see that I am trying to get better, that I really don't enjoy taking all of theses meds at home (because it's safer there)? How do I make him understand more than one "spot" and that they can't always find the root cause of what's happening? PLEASE HELP!!!
-Living with chronic upper back and neck pain. Zanaflex, Vicodin and now Trazadone
Post Edited (lapainintheneck) : 1/13/2012 12:12:15 PM (GMT-7)