I do not blame you in the least....I don't have little onesanymore, but I have a son who moved back works and goes to school an a husband...we made a deal along time ago, we all take turns being responsible for supper. So what we do is we each get 2 days and on sunday we fend for ourselves. Now you can cook it, pick it up or order in but if you order it in or pick it up you buy. As far as the house we all pitch 50 amonth and we hired a friend who cleans for a living, we pay her $150 a mth an she comes in for 2 and a half hrs a week and just does the basics, vacumns,dusts,washes floors and cleans our 2 bathrooms. Now are house is always relatively clean as we all work during the day an make little mess...but she just shines it up...lol.. We all feel it is worth approx $200 each a month for suppers and cleaning well worthit for us cause have to eat any way. For laundry my son does his own but my hub and I work out a deal if he throws it in and changes it over I will do folding and hanging...these are some suggestions that I have found worked for us and I don't feel I carry most of the burden...I also would not be able to eat because of pain by the time I was done all the cooking. If you have little ones I am sorry I guess you have to maybe alter things to make things fair. This works for us because my youngest is 26 and he works makes a big difference.
I hope your strike makes them
open there eyes and see how much you do for them. All the best to you...