Hi Lily and welcome to the chronic pain forum. I am glad that you us but sorry that you have to be here. At least by coming here and visiting with us you will find out that you are not alone, there are a lot of us that suffer with chronic pain. Pain can cause us to isolate ourselves and that is not a good thing to let happen. It can be real easy to slip in the isolation mode too. None of us here are drs, therefore we cannot diagnose you or tell you what is wrong with you. What we can do is share our own experiences and lend an ear to just listen or a shoulder to lean on.
When your drs said you are having referred pain it means the pain is coming from your back. With you having DDD that will cause pain and I imagine you have a lot of inflammation going on and that too increases the pain load. You did not mention what kind of drs are taking care of you or what kind of medications they have you on. I would think pain medication, maybe a muscle relaxer and for sure NSAID of some kind. I take Mobic for my arthritis and it helps.
Depression, boy that one can really turn things upside down real quick, not to mention causing an increase in our pain. For some reason CP and depression go hand in hand. If you are not on anything for the depression then please go to your dr and let him/her know what is going on. Crying all day is an indication there is a problem. When my depression is out of control I cry. I am one of these people that do not cry easy either. Perhaps if you are on something for the depression it is not doing its job and you may need a change in medication. Seek professional help, and do not feel bad for getting help either. It does not mean that you are crazy or weak, in fact it takes a strong person to walk in our shoes. My PCP dr recommended that I get in with a psychologist and the one I found was wonderful. She was such a big help, she made me realize my life was not over and it was really up to me to take control back. One thing she said that had to happen before anything was to learn how to make peace with your life and then you can move forward. Now that one was the hardest thing to do above all, but it can be done.
Being active is a must and finding things to do that will help distract you. Whether it is taking up a hobby of some kind, or reading a book. There are lots of things to do that do not require physical work, but staying active to an extent will really help. I know it sounds crazy to you but sitting at home and letting the pain consume you is so unhealthy. I garden a lot in the spring and summer, although I have had to cut my gardening way, way back I still manage to dig in the dirt, lol. Most of mine is container gardening. Winter is hard for me so I make myself get out of the house and go places, even if its to Walmart to walk around. I cannot walk very far unless I have a cart to hang onto so I go to places that have carts. I do like to crotchet and want to learn how to quilt.
Anyway, I wanted to pop on and tell you welcome aboard. Please keep us posted on how you are getting along.
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