Welcome to Healing Well. Many of us post here and in other forums as well. So, you are welcome to post in both places...
I'm sorry to hear about your car accident... and I'm also sorry that you are struggling w/ fibromyalgia. I have several chronic pain/health issues - and I also have FM, too.
You get a referral to a PM doc through your primary care doctor.
The point of a "good" pain management doctor is to manage your pain by finding what works best for you. This may involve medication, a variety of procedures (injections, nerve blocks, etc), physical therapy, TENS unit and on and on. There are a group of PM doctors that "only" do procedures and won't touch medications.... Most of us, though, have PM doctors that do both.
Medication doesn't necessarily mean a narcotic - although many of us here do use that as part of our pain management. But there are also nerve medications, muscle relaxers, etc.
While I do understand what you are saying about the "drug seeker" analogy... many of us here work hard to change that way of thinking, because it's something that most chronic pain patients - unfortunately - have to deal with (other people's misconceptions about pain, narcotic pain medication, addiction, etc).
Most CP patients take their medications responsibly - just as a diabetic may take insulin or someone with high blood pressure takes heart meds. Addiction for CP patients is actually very, very low.
Anyway, welcome to the group here, and I hope you'll continue posting. Before or after your fusion - did you ever take medications for your pain? Have you ever tried a nerve medicine? I have nerve issues in my back, as well as severe carpal tunnel syndrome - and I'm on neurontin, which is a nerve med.... it does help me.
Take care... --Tina
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