A look at what we do have, not what we dont have anymore

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NiNi53
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   Posted 4/7/2012 3:52 PM (GMT -6)   
I have been sitting out on my balcolny with the sun shining down on my face and arms as I have to get some sort of tan before the wedding on June 9th.  As I sit here, I started thinking how fortunate I am, things could always be so much worse, I by no means struggle as greatly as many others here suffer.  I decided to start looking at what I now had versus what I was forced to give up when I became disabled.
 
It has been difficult at times, there have been many shouting matches, but through it all, I have my beautiful daughters, my grandaughter 10, and my grandson 6, he just spent from Wed. until today and he was so delightful, my daughter her fiance and myself, he kept us laughing.  Then there is the wedding, I am going to walk my baby down the isle, it will be a slow trip, but I can make it.
 
I know there will be days that I will be down, but each morning, I wake up and thats a good start.
 
Take care all,
Kathy
degenerative disc disease, fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis, neuropathy, lumbar laminectomy july 1998 no help, rechargeable neurostimulator unit low right back w/lead wires to left side and right leg unit not working just sitting there.i am 57 years young in may will turn 58. i have 2 grown daughters, 25 and 29. i have 2 grandchildren, 9 year old grandaughter and 5 yr. old grandson

CRPSpatient
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   Posted 4/7/2012 7:08 PM (GMT -6)   
What an excellent topic Kathy. I know for me this is an ongoing grieving process and it's all too easy to get bogged down in what I've lost and what I won't have - so it's good view things from the other side of the fence so to speak.

I have a roof over my head and access to medical care when I need it. I have a wonderful family and friends. CP has taught me the value of true friendship, of who I can rely on. It's taught me empathy and compassion and has made me wiser. On the CRPS forum I use, we were talking about distractions and good things in our lives. One of the members said a wonderful thing -

"We might live a slower life but instead of looking for distractions, I just see it as a blessing to savor more of the things I'd missed all along. We'll never run out so long as we keep running". I think this is a great thought to live with.
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Blessedx8
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   Posted 4/7/2012 7:42 PM (GMT -6)   
I, too, think this is a great topic, Kathy. I really try hard to maintain perspective.... but I definitely have my moments where I lose sight of the bigger picture.... actually, I'm kinda in that mode right now where I'm bogged down by everything.

For today, though, I'm thankful for my faith. My family. The roof over our heads and food in the fridge. My friendships.... some people don't have anyone to turn to, and I'm thankful that I have many of you that I can turn to and that you truly understand.

Thanks for making me think about these important things today.... Love, Tina
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grandmaroses
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   Posted 4/7/2012 7:52 PM (GMT -6)   
I think this is a wonderful topic. I have changed my attitude as well, I am thankful for my family and friends and I know my recovery is hard on us all. I have been trying to have more patience with everyone including myself.
One step at a time, walk before I run.

NiNi53
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   Posted 4/7/2012 8:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Its true that one of the biggest blessing we all have is the HW forum.  Before I joined in March of 2011 (think thats the date once you are in it feels like you have always been here), anyway before I joined I had many more days of "poor me", since joining I feel blessed to have finally found people for whatever reason know exactly how I feel.
 
Its very comforting to know you dont need to convince anyone that you have cp, since we all do, we all know what daily life can be for us.  I know for me HW has been the best medicine I have had since this madness began almost 15 years ago.  And for this I give thanks everyday.  I also have begun passing along good karma, if I see someone who looks like they need a couple dollars, I gladly give it, I have been there before. If someone asks me for a couple of dollars or some change, if I have it I give it.  What they spend it on is not my business and I would not shame anyone because they have fallen upon hard times, "there but the grace of (whichever deity one believes in) go I".  I try never to forget that.
 
I do feel part of a family in the HW community, and its a wonderful feeling, no judgements, no non belivers, just advice or comfort or both.
 
Kathy
degenerative disc disease, fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis, neuropathy, lumbar laminectomy july 1998 no help, rechargeable neurostimulator unit low right back w/lead wires to left side and right leg unit not working just sitting there.i am 57 years young in may will turn 58. i have 2 grown daughters, 25 and 29. i have 2 grandchildren, 9 year old grandaughter and 5 yr. old grandson

abdpain49yrs
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   Posted 4/7/2012 11:44 PM (GMT -6)   
WOW!

What a great way to think about life! It could always be worse, even though we all have felt like there is no possible way it could. I am 27 with a 2 year old daughter and I struggle every day with guilt because there are so many things that I want to experience with her and some days that's just not possible. But every day no matter how bad I hurt when she smiles at me and says, "I love you, mommy!" there are no words to express what my heart feels. I go on and face every day no matter how hard it may be just because I couldn't stand the thought of not being able to hear that beautiful voice!

Of course I have my low times....but I will NEVER let those out-weigh the good memories made!

Keep laughing, smiling, and praying! Hope is good for the soul!!! :)
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