A lot has been said on this thread; A lot of great advice about seeing a counselor and dealing with your feelings. I quite agree.
My husband and I have been together 46 years, 43 of them married. Most of those years, I have been dealing with health issues and chronic pain. It plays a big stressor on a marriage and relationship. Both my husband and I have done counseling and I have to say, it probably did me the most good.
My husband is a wonderful man who takes very good care of me, but does he get sick of it sometimes? You bet! But I do what I can. When I am feeling up to it, I cook for him and I treat him very special and give him lots of attention. Now this is hard when I am in pain a lot, but I try to be mindful of his needs.
Our biggest problem is my lack of concentration and its effect on our ability to communicate. It's a struggle, but somehow we get through it each day.
I have shared this with you, hopefully to help you in some small way. I know every marriage is different, as sure as people are different, but chronic pain affects us CP'ers in many similar ways.
God's blessings on you both.
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