Very rough day

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Kaely
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   Posted 6/17/2012 5:18 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm very upset and angry at the moment. So tired of being made fun of because I can't do things others can do. Along with all my pain I'm overweight. Which makes life even harder.

Today was very rough. It started with my aunt coming over to help clean my house. My house isn't dirty, I keep up what I can. The floors are clean the dishes are done and the bathroom is always clean. My family is ultra insanely clean. If you can't eat off their floors or out of their toilet bowls the house isn't clean enough. It sounds like I'm kidding but I'm not. (last year I once caught my aunt vacuuming their front yard...OUTSIDE...)

Anyway my aunt was stressing me out digging through my closet (I don't even know why) and pulling everything out. Like a concert t-shirt I'd had signed by the band. So I'm freakin out telling her to leave it alone before she got cute and washed it. Oh and she had me moving this and that around (like furniture) so I was in a lot of pain. (i'm not supposed to lift anything but I just wante4d it to stop.) That's how I spent the morning/early afternoon.

Late afternoon my sister and her fiancee brought me a full size bed to replace my twin bed. Seems they forgot some parts so my uncle came over with clamps to put it together. Well it's kinda low to the ground so once it's together they decide I can't get out of the bed because of my back. Or that I'd break it because of my weight.

So my aunt has me lay on the bed with the whole bunch of them making fun of me the whole time. It didn't break and I managed to get up just fine but the whole thing was horribly embarrassing. I told them this is why I lived far away for a long time.

So, I have a new bed and maybe I shouldn't complain but today was hell.

sjkly
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   Posted 6/17/2012 5:23 PM (GMT -6)   
With family like that who needs enemies. I am sorry they are so difficult. I had to tell my mother she was not allowed to clean my house-ever, under any circumstances. She kept throwing away things related to my job that I needed.

Kaely
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   Posted 6/17/2012 7:34 PM (GMT -6)   
You are so right! I have to watch Auntie like a hawk lol
Chronic pain, Depression, Fibromyalgia, Tennis Elbow (both arms), Arthritis (knees and fingers), Diabetes. Ruptured disk L-4, Severe degenerative damage L5-S1, ACDF C6-C7

gangsterkathryn
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   Posted 6/17/2012 8:53 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm so sorry your family is a bunch of jerks! I know how you feel as I am overweight as well (although losing quickly) and have been made fun of my entire life.

I don't know if you had them over because you needed company or something but they're making things worse. I wouldn't have them over unless absolutely necessary. They're having a negative impact on your life and your depression. Being overweight and listening to other constantly commenting on it, in no way helps either of our situations.

I hope you can have a better week than you did weekend.
Kathryn - 22 years old.
Mommy to Baby Scott - May 18th, 2011.

Accidents: Jan. and Oct. 2008, Nov. 2009.
Surgeries: Eye - 1995, Lumbar Laminectomy L4-5 - Feb. 2008, Cesarean Section - May 2011 and Gallbladder Removal - June 2011.
Current Medication: Generic Fentanyl 50 mcg/h patch every 72 hours (feels ineffective after 48), Meloxicam 15mg once a day and Generic Tylenol for breakthrough.

alsoinpain
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   Posted 6/18/2012 8:07 AM (GMT -6)   
Kaely, I'm so sorry that your family is treating you like that. I too am overweight, but my hubby says that its just more to love. 8-)

We don't actually have "family" anymore; my family and my husbands family was so bad that we have actually cut off all contact. its been 13 years with my family (there was a death, long story) and its been 3 years without hubbs family; and we are finally able to be happy, no longer do we have to worry if they're going to stop by, or stop by when we're not home etc.

Good luck to you and take care.
My DX: There is fairly advanced, moderate to severe degenerative disk disease at L3-L4 and L4-L5 with endplate sclerosis and osteophyte formation and moderate facet osteoarthropathy. There is a transitional left lumbosacral segment with articulation of the transitional segment and the sacrum, also referred to as Bertolotti syndrome. There are degenerative changes at C5-C6 with disk space narrowi

Kaely
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   Posted 6/18/2012 1:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you to the few who answered this.

alsoinpain, it's nice to know I'm not the only one.

Kathryn, I'm hoping that if I get my disability in August, I'll be able to afford to move away from here. I had to come here or live on the street because I can't work and had gone through all of my savings. So I'm in a tight spot and stuck dealing with all of this as long as I have to stay here.

Maybe I shouldn't complain at all but yesterday was just really hard for me and I needed to vent.
Chronic pain, Depression, Fibromyalgia, Tennis Elbow (both arms), Arthritis (knees and fingers), Diabetes. Ruptured disk L-4, Severe degenerative damage L5-S1, ACDF C6-C7

stingray
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   Posted 6/18/2012 2:31 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Kaely
I'm sorry your having such a hard time. People can be cruel but family can be the cruelest of all. I have a mother who has said so many cruel and hurtful things that I always feel embarrassed when I have her over and other people are around because I'm never sure what she will say. She constantly complains about something or someone and wonders why even her grand kids have started to shy away from her. I guess we all have those relatives we wish we didn't have. Just wanted to add my 2 cents worth and wish you all the best and tell you to stay strong. Sometimes people just won`t give you respect unless you demand it. You are who you are and if they don`t like it...that`s their problem. Hope you feel better soon. All the best.
Stingray(Randy)
Chronic Back Pain, Anxiety, A little Depression, Left foot problems...foot growing in length and big toe growing out sideways, Osteoporosis,11 surgeries total..right foot twice, right knee 3 times, right elbow, throat/neck, spinal fusion, left elbow, left knee, currently deciding on whether to have surgery on left foot.
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Kaely
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   Posted 6/18/2012 5:30 PM (GMT -6)   
Wow your mom sounds like mine Randy. Apparently I need to get back to keeping my family at arm's length.
Chronic pain, Depression, Fibromyalgia, Tennis Elbow (both arms), Arthritis (knees and fingers), Diabetes. Ruptured disk L-4, Severe degenerative damage L5-S1, ACDF C6-C7

Kaely
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   Posted 6/18/2012 7:23 PM (GMT -6)   
They caught me at a weak point yesterday, usually I just ignore them. I was tired and hurting and they got to me.

I have 3 kitties and they help me a lot. Watching them tumble around the house usually keeps my spirits up :)
Chronic pain, Depression, Fibromyalgia, Tennis Elbow (both arms), Arthritis (knees and fingers), Diabetes. Ruptured disk L-4, Severe degenerative damage L5-S1, ACDF C6-C7

alsoinpain
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   Posted 6/19/2012 7:33 AM (GMT -6)   
Kaely,
I'm hoping your having a better day today. The comment about your kitties made me smile today and i needed that - thank you!
My DX: There is fairly advanced, moderate to severe degenerative disk disease at L3-L4 and L4-L5 with endplate sclerosis and osteophyte formation and moderate facet osteoarthropathy. There is a transitional left lumbosacral segment with articulation of the transitional segment and the sacrum, also referred to as Bertolotti syndrome. There are degenerative changes at C5-C6 with disk space narrowi

Kaely
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   Posted 6/19/2012 11:15 AM (GMT -6)   
Alsoinpain, yes, thanks today is better. My kitties usually keep me smiling. I had one cat. Then my niece got a kitten that unfortunately grew so she didn't want her anymore, so then I had two cats. Then my aunt started feeding a stray cat and it got cold as winter approached last year so now I have 3 cats. I told my family that none of them are allowed to have cats anymore because I'm awfully close to crazy cat lady status.

I woke up this morning with the former stray cat lying next to me. When he saw me watching him he started to purr. It's a good start to any day :)
Chronic pain, Depression, Fibromyalgia, Tennis Elbow (both arms), Arthritis (knees and fingers), Diabetes. Ruptured disk L-4, Severe degenerative damage L5-S1, ACDF C6-C7
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