Hello all- I'm here because I don't have anywhere else to turn. about 6 months ago I was in a pretty bad car accident ( I was cut off in traffic by a car turning left and slammed into them at about 35-40mph). At the time I was 7 months pregnant and thankfully my daughter waited another 8 weeks for her due date to be born. My entire workup after the car accident was entirely geared toward making sure she was ok, because immediately after the car accident the car cabin started filling with smoke (from air bag) so I immediately jumped out the car thinking it might explode or something. So by the time i got to the ER they knew I was mostly ok.
I told them my belly hurt (I ended up with a fist sized bruised to the right of my belly button where my poor sweet pea smashed into the steering wheel and then got punched by the air bag) and that my chest hurt so bad I could barely bring my arms forward. I absolutely couldn't reach for things acoss my my body. I could hardly lay on my side the chest pain was so bad. They did an ultrasound to check my liver, spleen, but mostly to make sure I wasn't having a placenta abruption and that my sweet pea didn't have any broken bones. I spent about 5 hours in OB for additional monitoring and went home. They sent me home with #5 vicodin and told me to follow up with my OB. A few days later (TMI alert!) I noticed my upper back hurt a little and i started having trouble wiping after gong to the bathroom (so much so that I regularly just had to shower after because I couldn't get myself clean with just regular wiping. This was my first pregnancy so i just figured it was run of the mill mobility issues pregnant women have and everything would clear up after i gave birth. Yeah, not so much...
Fast forward 8 weeks from the accident and my daughter is only a day or so old and I'm in excruciating pain. Breast feeding her every 2 hours brings tears to my eyes. I feel like I'm being stabbed with hot knives in my spine and lit cigarettes are bing put out between my shoulder blades. At night when I'm trying to get whatever sleep I could, when i would try to roll over i could feel what felt like bone on bone and I still can't rollover in one fluid motion. I still rollover like I have giant pregnant belly.
By the time my daughter's weight reached 8lbs, she was 7lbs2oz at birth, I could hardly lift her and I nearly dropped her a time or two putting her into her crib. The first week of July i started seeing a chiropractor who diagnosed my with whiplash and for the past 3 1/2 months I have been getting twice weekly adjustments. All had been going well until about 2-3 weeks ago.
My daughter is upto 17lbs and I had been able to keep caring for her as her weight climbed. I was sleeping more comfortably and I was only having like one headache a week. Over the past 2-3 weeks the pain has started to wratchet back up. Last Monday i woke up and it was like the accident just happened. I couldn't lift my daughter. i could hardly move. Everything from the bottom of my ribs up just felt like it was on fire. I'm still seeing my chiropractor and the adjustments are unbelievably painful whereas they once brought relief. I have blinding headaches most days of the week.
I eneded up seeing a dr covering for my PCP because she was out that day. He rx'd me vicodin, flexeril, ordered a MRI of just my neck(?) and referred me for physical therapy. The MRI came back normal so he said just keep up with the physical therpy and chiropractor. I'm just at a loss. I haven't started PT, but i'm scared becuase I'm in terrible pain just from a 1/2 day of chores or carrying my daughter a lot.
I feel like my motherhood and my daughter's life has been ruined. I have been on maternity leave since I was 6 months pregnant, my daughter is 4 1/2 months old now, and I can't return to work either. I'm an RN and have to be able to lift 50lbs and can hardly lift my kid.
I'm just so frustrated, angry and sad. At the time everyone, myself incuded, said "how lucky are you that you and your baby didn't die?" Since she was born everyone has been acting like, "God, you're still talking about that? You've got a beautiful baby girl, a great husband and you get to be a stay at home mom! Why are you still on that?"
I haven't gotten proper care for my injuries from the start, because nobody wants to muck with a pregnant women. Even if they had, pregnancy hormones supress inflammaton and soften joints making any concrete diagnosis and treatment difficult. No one will tell me what kind of drs i should seek out, whether or not my condition will improve or not, or when I can expect to go back to work.
Now that it's been 6 months drs just treat me like a bored housewife and even hint at post partum depression. I'm a mom. I can't say, "sorry baby my back hurts, I can't nurse you today. Sorry baby my back hurts, I can't cuddle you." I'm a mom! I can't choose to not do stuff! I just have to do it in a lot of pain that is present all the time. Now, becuase I kneel and squat a lot to compensate for the fact that I can't reach well, both of my knees hurt.
I'm only 29 and I feel like I'm looking down the barrel of a life long disabilty with $15K in student loans to pay back for my nursing degree. I can still walk and do have a fair degree of movement, but unless I can lift 50lbs I don't have the experience to move to a less strenuous area of nursing. We haven't settled with insurance companies yet, but I know I'll get screwed, because I was on maternity leave when it happened. It's been this big black cloud over what I spent my entire life looking forward to.