Posted 11/8/2012 6:19 PM (GMT -6)
Knew I could count on my family here for some good advice.
For starters, the chiro was a one time shot. She did that against my advice. A nursing friend of my wife, husband was the chiro. Now that she knows her true dx, she will not agree to any more chiro stuff.
We are waiting for the appointment with the neuro surgeon. Hoping to find out tommorow the "when" part. I looked up the guy on the net, he is really one of the top ones in our part of SC, read a lot of reviews from patients, etc.
Also quickly researched slip discs, and it looks like surgery is considered the last choice, not the first choice. Hope that is true. I am sure it will take the neru surgeon to look at the MRI's and determine the depth of damage and any risks. I would not hesitate to get a 2nd opinion, if he takes one looks and pushes for early surgery.
She has long term disability, but not short. She has already used up two weeks of PTO hours just getting to this point. I am fully disabled, its not like I can jump out and suddenly get a job and be able to work. Its going to be a tough situation if she is not able to work. I am on Medicare, so I am covered, but she needs to work to sustain her Bluecross insurance.
This happened at work, doing a normal nurse duty, so I don't see why this can't be a Workmen's Comp situation, which would help, I believe. She is talking to her superiors about this aspect. She was bending down, changing a leg dressing on a patient when her back gave way. Sounds work related to me.
As far as me - after all the running around with her on the MRI, I had a major pain breakdown. Barely got her back home safely in bed. Took my meds, and I crashed for 2 1/2 hours into a deep but disturbed sleep. When I woke up, it was only then that she told me about the MRI dx. I was stunned and shocked, as I was hoping it was just a pinched nerve.
I then had to go out and run a whole slew of errands, including picking up some new and much stronger pain meds for her. Now that the MRI dr. told her dr that she was definitely in severe pain, I am hoping they will be more willing to keep her pain under proper control.
Thanks for the tips and advice, I will be checking back and reading every one of them. Appreciate every one's input and help. I feel a bit overwhelmed with this bad news, and I feel so weak and inadequate to help her properly, especially if she ends up needing back surgery, long recovery, PT, etc.
I can barely get through most days with my own ailments, never expected this to happen.
Age: 60, 56 at PC dx, PSA 16.3
3rd Biopsy: 9/8 7 of 7 Positive, 40-90%, 4+3
open RP: 11/8, Catheter in 63 days
Path Rpt: 3+4, pT2c, 42g, 20% tumor, 1 pos margin
Incont & ED: None
Surgery Failed, recurrence within 9 months
Salvage Radiation 10/9-11/9, SRT failed within 9 months, PSA 4/12 = 37.x
Spent total of 1 ½ years on 21 catheters, Ileal Conduit Surgery 9/10,
7 other PC-related surgeries
Member of Prostate Cancer & Chronic Pain HW Communities since 10/2008
“I live in the weak and the wounded” – Session Nine (Movie)