I'm going to pose a few different or alternative thoughts. I'm wanting to share with you some things I've learned in the many years I've been on this planet with ongoing CP issues. This is in no particular order, and heads up guys because I'm bringing up a few child birth situation.
I am what's known as a "water baby" as my Mother gave birth to me in the water (not a kiddy pool) and in her opinion, she liked it. Likewise she felt great during her pregnancy and her labor was around 8 hours. Emphasis on "not a kiddy pool" so that you can have MORE of your body submerged as you go into labor to help alleviate back pains and pressure. (Not remove, just assist). Another birthing option is doggy-style, or on fours, because you create more room internally for the baby to pass than the traditional "on your back" (which I'm convinced was invented by a man). Birthing chairs use gravity to assist. Keep your OB but maybe just interview some of the midwifery clinics out there. They may be able to offer you more ideas.
Healthy-spined women often get sciatica, severe back pain (plus other stuff
) and I just want to prepare you that the possibility exists
you'll have this/these as well but, perhaps,
at a considerably higher level. Be monitored more often, not just by OB but your regular docs to keep a VIGIL on your spine and hips from the beginning straight through. Don't avoid this because you're afraid you'll come across as a pain in the tookus. This is your body and your baby's. You WILL
most likely have more precautions, take them seriously, don't let other mothers try to talk you into doing things your doctors warned against.
Stay active (within reason)....if your tushy permits, ride a bike, use an elliptical, or just plain ole walk, (treadmill or outdoors), but go with a buddy. While you can (before you get pregnant especially) please pay super extra special (gentle, passive, not ballistic, and NO classes), attention on your legs and hip flexibility, your back flexibility (as much as you can get and maintain), and STRENGTH TRAIN THE HECK
out of your upper body like crazy. You won't "bulk up" (that's a myth) but you are going to need incredible arm strength, during delivery and afterwards, so please, if you can, start now lifting weights, and work your way up to heavier weights if the doctors okay it. Big, bold letters for that, because as I've learned, it's that important
While you're breastfeeding you'll burn through roughly 600 calories more a day....(doesn't mean eat junk, everything you eat/drink passes through to the milk, so also do not work out 1-2 hours before you feed or pump because hormones will be in your milk),...still stay away from any drugs/OTC aids,....except and ONLY do what your doctors advise.Do not try to keep up with other new mothers and remember YOUR unique situations
. You're going to want to, be pressured to, but "everyone is different," don't let yourself get swayed.
Muslin type slings that go around your neck to hold your infant help (because carrying the weight in full with your arms can hurt your back and spine, especially when they squirm, and boy do they squirm!) just watch the strain on your neck. Constant vigilant focus on maintaining your posture, from head to toe, because as your infant grows, that little tot becomes a loveable baby, then a little tike you can't keep up with,....and you're moving more and lifting more, you can unwittingly and accidentally start flareups.
Strollers will be your best friend (good for baby, good for you walking). Use both hands, don't try to improvise. In the nursery, if you have
to put anything "low" use it for your backups. Design
it or modify
it so that it's all waist height, even the crib should be a little lower, and the changing table. Trash baskets with foot pedals, your best friend.
Always, always, always, (especially if you have an SUV) stuff with all sorts of backup stuff, even if you think you'll never need it, and organize it in individual, separate, LIGHT WEIGHT (ie: wicker) baskets you can organize in that back space. The fewer heavy things you have to reach for or pick up, the better. Can't emphasize enough the importance of a sealable containers for "used" diapers (portable) you empty when you get home. Emergencies happen at the worst times. Keep a stash (in house and car) of everything from diapers, to baby wipes, creams (and hand wipes and hand sanitizer), powder, blankets, water (weather permitting). And don't forget yourself, always keeping stashes of water and snacks to keep your blood sugar up and energy.
Design the nursery to have everything at waist height, including cabinets or slide out drawers, everything! (If lower cabinets are "insisted on" use them purely for backup). Spare no expense in lightweight/durable/secure car seats (that don't require 30 minutes of bending, reaching, unfastening, twisting), and carriers (look at the handles and the way the basket is balanced as you hold it), that do not hurt your hand. (That may surprise you). Use the stroller often (packed with backups, for baby, and lots of water for you and snacks).
The best bit of advice I can give you is something no one gave me, and even now at 50 with no babes in my home, I felt like a bad mother, ignorant, stupid,....what do they know that I don't, why do they look down on me,....all because I needed things lower than "everyone else," and so I forced myself to do what they do. The reaching, the lifting,....the height. The bending low. I didn't stand up for myself. I paid a hefty price. Please, above all else, don't let this happen to you and start preparing yourself now because it'll happen. Not to hurt you, they think they're helping....just smile, say "thank you," and keep doing what YOU need to do for YOU and YOURS.
Don't do that. Start now with GENTLE suggestion (Hubbys have to think they're part of this decision making process so they feel they contributed to your well being).
Good luck, and I'll help any way I can,...because I can carry you further regarding what happens along the years.
Post Edited (Sookie Snows) : 8/4/2013 10:03:25 AM (GMT-6)