I haven't quite figured this out yet, nor how to deal with it when presented.
Yep, my posture has become dreadful. Sure, we can add the diagnosis of scoliosis, and kyphosis, and a list of other fancy terms. Point is, I slouch. My head juts out, my shoulders are hiked up, I walk forward, as if I'm always preparing myself for a possible fall. And let's face it, with all my recent surgeries, neurological deficits, and hardware, I can't afford a random splat.
Why is it those with the best intentions feel compelled to tell me the "source" of all my back troubles is postural, (especially my extended family members,...my Mother stands firm, as does my Sister in Law, the one who works in a PMC),...that if only I would stand up straight I wouldn't be in pain. Yuh-huh, how enlightening. Well, you see, I'm hunched over because I'm in pain and much of my posture isn't causing the pain, as much as it's the result of me trying to not be in pain.
I'm forever flinching if something/someone brushes against me, forever on guard, high alert. Being told if only I'd "relax my shoulders & arms comfortably by my side"... is like telling me to stick my hand in a fire. I am not comfortable nor relaxed with my shoulders down, and in fact, this "relaxing" often hurts my back and neck.
I am still in the process of rehab, strengthening, stabilizing, learning and adapting. This is complicated by the weight gain from my inactivity. I'm not blind, nor ignorant. Think I don't see or feel my expansion, or understand the impact this has? Again, if only I'd lose weight, my back wouldn't hurt. Yuh-huh, well that's on my list. I'm trying to get physical,...so I can lose weight,...so my body will be stronger, so my back and hips won't hurt. I see it as a balance, in tandem, a process. Not so cut and dry. What's with the insistence that I'm oblivious to the connection or presumptions that I'm not actively working to reclaim my body, or that I need education on the obvious? I know they all mean well, but when even the doctors see this posture as a cause not an effect, it becomes harder to be understood.
Anyone have any guidance on how to deal with this? Anyone else feel their posture is sort of like this? Anyone relate?