Delilah, this is something I think about
a lot, considering I'm 38 and also have three small kids.
One thing that Vickie taught me, or rather forced me to realize, (though she may not know she did), is that my kids can and will do a lot more if I expect more of them. My daughter (who is only 5) loves to help the most out of all of them. Well, it used to be more of a hindrance than a help to me since she just messed things up more and I let her help for 'fun.'
But then I started teaching her how to do things the right way and guess what, I hardly have to do dishes anymore ;-)
I've also started teaching my 8 year old how to do laundry, since this is one of the tasks that sends my pain through the roof, with all the bending to pick up the clothes, toss them in the laundry, transfer to dryer, etc. So he's getting there.
The three year old is now in charge of cleaning the playroom every day at the end of the day.
My kids just love when they're told that they're "in charge" and really step in to that role to help out. Really this is something that I think all families should do, but it helps out even more for a CPer and a mom.
So, thanks Vickie ;) It was your nudging that got me to do this with my kids. My house work has been decreased about
15% so far but we're still in the beginning phases of learning.
As far as when I realized it, well, I am still realizing it. Each appointment lately I'm told that what I need to do is manage, that there isn't a cure, but I can manage. I want to scream each time I hear this but the more I hear it the more I realize it might be true. It's just, adjusting to a new normal. It takes a lot of pressure off when you stop looking for that magic bullet that's going to fix you. It's all about
(for me) putting as many tools in my toolbox for dealing with things as I can. Maybe one day I won't need them anymore, but now I do. I cannot see being on opiates the rest of my life. No way. But I also don't put pressure on myself that I have to get off of them NOW. When it's time, I'll do it, but that won't be now or maybe even three years from now. I don't know what the future holds.
Hugs, Delilahblue, just remember, you're not alone and secondly remember, your kids can do more than you think! Even if they're already doing a lot around the house, they could probably do more.
Post Edited (Backtolife) : 1/11/2015 10:20:45 AM (GMT-7)