Posted 12/31/2016 9:24 PM (GMT -7)
The loss (theft) of 40 pills is not an insignificant number.
The loss (theft) of 40 pills will certainly adversely affect your well-being until your next scheduled prescription date.
Susie's suggested narrative in addressing the situation with your girlfriend has merit. Susie's narrative is to the point and thoughtful without making a direct accusation. To wit: "In counting my pills last night, I discovered that I am short 40 pills. This is going to put me in a really difficult space. If you know anything about the missing pills, I would appreciate their return."
If your girlfriend becomes unreasonably angry or unreasonably defensive, that, too, will be informative.
Do not be shy away from confronting the situation with your girlfriend. The air of mis-trust will infect your relationship if the loss (theft) of your pills is not addressed.
If your girlfriend was so blatant as to take (steal) your prescription medication she is demonstrating a callous lack of regard for your wellbeing.
I understand that this relationship has value to you. The relationship with her little girl is meaningful to you.
But open your eyes fully to the circumstances of which you are writing here and suspecting of your girlfriend. If substantiated as true, your girlfriend has not taken 1 or 2 pills . . . nor 4 or 5 pills . . . but 40 pills. This is a substantial number of pills.
If substantiated as true, your girlfriend has taken from you on multiple occasions. And she has done so with forethought and intent.
If substantiated as true, your girlfriend will more than likely take/steal from you again. There is ever reason to believe that this pattern will continue.
If true, your girlfriend has committed a crime punishable under the law.
Your prescribing physician may not be so sympathetic to your situation, if he/she learns that you were suspecting of diversion of your prescribed pills by a significant other and failed to act in a timely manner to secure your pills from further theft/loss.
I would never want to be so dependent on a relationship that I failed to see and take corrective action on a painful reality.
If your girlfriend is wiling to take/steal prescription medications from you, what else might she take from you? Will she take money out of your wallet? Will she use your credit card and the card's security code?
I see red danger flags in your relationship with this girlfriend and child. And the fact that you have taken the time to write about it here, on this forum, to gauge how others see your situation, tells me that you are concerned mightily as well.
I would take Susie's advice . . open the door of communication with your girlfriend in a non-confrontational manner. See how your girlfriend responds. See if your pills are returned.
Above all else, put into place immediately so that your prescription medications are secured from unscrupulous diversion. By no means can your girlfriend have any ways or means to access your pills.
As I mentioned, I have had prescription narcotics stolen/taken by hired care aides who came to stay with me in my home. These aides were from a licensed and bonded agency, who had gone through background checks and were fully vetted. And yet, I was taken advantage of. Pills were stolen, 1 or 2 at a time. The pills were taken/stolen so slowly that I did not notice their absence in the bottle. That is, until the volume depleted was noticeable. And by that point, it was in excess of 35 pills.
I've been in a similar situation. As have others. So my comments are not meant to be critical of you but rather are meant to "light a fire" under you so that you can see clearly the seriousness of the situation and find the momentum to take decisive action.
You have my support and understanding,
- Karen -