With my chronic pain & a plethora of other medical conditions, I don't usually feel like having "guests" in our home but especially at night when I'm already in my PJs. Last night, my husband's "friend from work" texted him as we were pulling into our subdivision, returning home from doing errands. This man's text said "Come outside. I have something for you." Both my husband & I exclaimed in surprise ,"Is he at our house now?" When my husband texted his friend back, sure enough he was waiting outside our home at about
8:35 pm (it is very dark by this hour)...he had never called or texted my husband about
visiting...nothing. This man knows that I have chronic pain & illnesses, too. He also knows that both my husband and me go to bed relatively early like 9 pm or 9:30 pm. The purpose of this man's visit (he was NOT in the neighborhood & lives a 1 hour round trip drive away) was to give my husband a big bowl of homemade banana pudding (of course, this man made it especially for my husband, never mind me - the person with chronic pain & illness).
This same man calls & texts my husband whenever he feels like it and it is for things that are so unimportant to anyone I know. For example, a day or two ago, he texted, late evening, my husband asking a question about
chipmunk traps. Not to provide TMI but my husband & me were attempting intimate relations so my husband didn't respond to his text. about
2 minutes later, this man then calls my husband; I assume because my husband never texted back immediately. My husband had forgotten to turn his phone off and I personally found the interruption distracting & very annoying.
This "friend" is completely being rude and overstepping the friendship boundaries, in my opinion. Am I overreacting because I'm in pain & feel like Hell?? I don't care if it's my friend or my husband's friend...I don't think any adult should just show up at night, when it's dark, uninvited & totally unexpected. He never even gave us a warning that he was coming. Personally, I don't show up to anyone's home uninvited & unexpected unless an emergency would occur. I don't feel home-made banana pudding qualifies as an emergency.
I find this "friend's" actions to be unnerving, very strange & a big interruption to "my quiet time." With this friend's unexpected/uninvited visits and texts & phone calls, I don't get the "quiet time" I need for myself or with my husband. He is like the SWAT team who could invade my home at any time !!! (Insert Sarcasm)
Is it me or him??? Opinions, comments & even questions are appreciated! Thanks much.
Post Edited (ChronicPain1970) : 9/22/2017 4:45:06 AM (GMT-6)