So I've been dating someone who began to have chronic pain when we first met about
nine months ago. At first it was just a slight problem but it's grown and has led to depression and has made it hard for him to get out. What first seemed like back pain has turned into involuntary movements and he's been unable to get a diagnosis.
I was w/someone w/chronic pain before and I myself also endured years w/chronic pain so I'm understanding and patient. But since me and this guy met when this started to be a problem it's been hard to gauge our relationship. It's hard to know when we weren't clicking emotionally/intimately bc of his pain or actually bc of our relationship. But I've never connected w/someone more. He really
opened my mind to so much. Reminded me how important my work/job is, which built up my self-esteem. But it's just always still felt off on his end.
These last few weeks I could feel him pulling away. He touched me less. Wanted me around less. But again, his pain has increased and he got a severe case of the flu. I've been trying to be patient but the less we saw of each other the more distance was built between the two of us.
So last night he sent me a message saying he was having a "difficult time navigating our relationship right now." He said it felt impossible to be close and admitted to pushing me away. I immediately reacted saying I know he's been doing that and maybe it's best we take time apart. He then said he was depressed and having a hard time in all of his relationships and just wants to be alone. I again reacted w/ that's fine I have my own problems.
Now I wonder if he was reaching out and rather than push back I should've expressed I was there for him? I just don't want to put myself out there if this is actually about
me and him wanting me gone.
It's hard to know what's about
you and what's about
Post Edited (LostinLove) : 1/8/2018 2:18:55 PM (GMT-7)