Posted 4/25/2019 10:20 AM (GMT -7)
TN, try to save yourself some extra grief & let go of the guilt feelings. It's time to take inventory of all the medical conditions you have dealt with. Meaning look at the surgeries that you have undergone. Each time you had surgery the decision was made to improve your overall being, this includes being able to do things with your husband that you both have missed doing. It has been all about getting some sort of semblance of your life back. None of this was self inflicted! It took me awhile to realize everything I had done or tried was to improve myself and be a better functioning family member.
Does your drs office have a patient portal online? If so, perhaps a brief note to your dr can be done now, before the appt next week. This could be done without causing any issues. If you do not have this, then I suggest a call to your drs nurse, let her discuss it with your dr ahead of time.
I would avoid being in a car as much possible for awhile. You have a lot of healing to do on the inside regardless of how you have healed on the outside. I took my grandson to school this morning, saw a pickup t-bone a lady in a 20 mph school zone!! He was coming out of the school parking lot & hit her. Low impact crash but he tore up the entire passenger side of her SUV.
Maybe it's time to share your feelings with your husband. Let him know you are aware it has impacted both of your lives & you are very much aware of the impact it has made on him. I would remind him your goal is to heal from this surgery with the very best outcome you can have. You are at the stage now, that further surgery down the road is something that needs to be avoided.
I completely understand where your thoughts are on this subject. Ha, ha, I just bought a topical ointment on Amazon for pain. My grandson's golf instructor told me about it. Her aunt uses it & says it's fantastic, so I will give it a try. If it works any I will post about it here, lol. Hey, at this stage I am still looking.