I have been in chronic pain for the past 10 years but its gotten much worse in the last 2. I have 20 screws in my back on a failed surgery and a pain pump. I know my wife means well but every time she goes to her mothers she comes back with ideas on how to fix me. She adores her mother and her mothers word is as good as gold in her eyes but its very frustrating to deal with. I know her mother means well too but neither have a clue about
what I am going through.
I just got the pain pump and they haven't figured out the proper dose yet so my pain is not managed hardly at all. I respond well to oral medications but they might as well be plutonium with how difficult it is to find a doctor willing to prescribe them. So I spend a lot of time laying down. I do all I can around the house and work through the pain just so I am somewhat helpful around here and then I have to lay down for hours afterward.
Her most recent visit to her mother she came home with ideas on how I am going to strengthen my core which will somehow help my spinal cord and nerve endings from screaming at me. I told her it might help some but my pain isn't muscular and it doesn't matter if I am just sitting, laying down, walking or lifting things my back is killing me so I don't see how my core is going to help but she kept going on and on about
it so I just told her I was done with the conversation for now and left it at that.
I don't know what to do about
this situation. Its just frustrating because I have tried everything to help with the pain and I dont know how I am even supposed to start walking and exercising when I am at my limit just doing housework. What do I do? What do I say?
Post Edited (HomeBass) : 1/8/2023 3:27:13 PM (GMT-8)