Thanks for your thougths and ideas. Like I said, this has been going on for 17 years. After his first spurt in rehab, we believed all was rosie. We had two kids. When I was 8 mo. preg with the second...I found meds in his possession (he did not have an injury at the time). It was only a month later that he fell and did get hurt. We have tried counseling together, individually, numerous attempts to get to docs that can balance this ugly monster but none have been successful. Living with him was more impacted by the addiction part than the chronic pain. We were living with the "elephant in the corner" sydrome. My kids were increasingly being effected by his drugged out times, which became more and more often. We had numerous hospital runs for OD scares. He has depression (chicken or egg question) but it cannot be effectively dealt with because he has SOOOO much meds on board. Two years ago, after a deceptive ploy with a kook doc that he will not let go of he took literally handfuls, hundreds of pills and we got him to a hospital. His parents took him from there. I told them I needed to focus on the kids, and me while he needs to focus on himself. He has lived away from us for almost 2 years now. He has had ups and down times since then, but has worn out his welcome at his dad and has brought a tornado of ugly to his mom's. The kids and I are very active in a variety of different help programs for families in crisis. We have healed sooooo much and I am very very proud of how strong my kids have gotten. I know it will forever effect them, but I believe that all struggles can effect you by making you stronger and wiser. My son has said things that blow me away. He 'gets' it. As for my husband, like I said he has his ups and downs but he always falls right back into the same-o-same-o. I love him very much and hope and pray he is able to conquer this. I know thought that there is nothing I can 'do' to help. Medically he has been handed the world on a platter and has sabotaged all of it.
You asked what meds and amounts that he is taking? Currently I am not 100% sure. I try to not overwhelm myself with knowing. Even when he lived with me I didn't always know because of the dishonesty and deception. I know at one point he had 14X80mg oxi prescribed per day as well as 1200mg Demerol per day, and others that I don't remember the amounts of...hydrocodone, valuim, soma - ALL AT THE SAME TIME! Now he has a pain pump with dilaudid and brobivicane (spelling?). He also takes orals but I'm not sure what or how many - he still sees the kook doc regularly so I could be anything.