Thanks guys for the quick responses. You made me calm down. I am terrible when it comes to my emotions. See, I have PTSD and anxiety/panic along with depression, and have been terribly physically/mentally/emotionally abused. SO I tend to overreact to the littlest things.
I left my abusive husband 4 years ago. To this day, he paid me 100 dollars ONCE. Nothing else, no money for the children, no money for me. To top it off, I've had to carry him on my insurance, because otherwise my kids would not both be covered. So he's greatly benefited off injections, back surgeries, pain meds, and all kinds of other treatments cause I paid 700 dollars a month when I worked and now pay 1000 bucks a month on COBRA. He hasn't paid a dime for that either. If I bring it up, he just starts screaming at me.
My parents didn't believe he was such a user/abuser. Now that he's threatening this with the kids, they are ready to step in. Thanks mom.
So I called Legal Aid, on Monday, and I am waiting for a lawyer to call as they said I was approved. They also said that I should re-apply for food stamps, as I should have been approved the first time.
He called me today to say he was quitting his job and was moving up north with his g/f (who lives 3 hours away) and that he would want to see them every weekend (he does see them every weekend now, but I have them all week). Actually most of the time "something" comes up and he can see them only for a few hours on one day, so Istarted keeping track a few weeks ago. I wish I would have kept track all these years. Will the judge not believe me if I tell him these things, like about
the insurance? OR about
not paying anything for the kids? NO clothes. No medicines. (And they are on over 300 a month on medicines). He doesn't take them to any appointments to the dentists, to the doctors, to the eye doctor (now shes got an eye disorder and I had to buy 340 dollar glasses), and take her to her therapist every week. He doesn't do crap. He wants to take them all summer so they can be with their "half sisters", and their "new family". I am so ANGRY. He took them camping a few weeks, and my daughter (she's very smart) told me "daddy was making such funny noises with miss X and they were so loud I couldn't sleep". They all slept in one tent and they HAD SEX in front of the kids!!! WTH??!!! These are young children. Am I the only one who thinks that is totally inappropriate behavior? Is it acceptable that he has a fiancee who he's planning to move in with while he's still married to me??? I mean, I know its been a long time, but just a few months ago he was asking me to get back with him.
Oh guys, I am just so upset. I have calmed down with a dose of my Ativan. I am in therapy myself to help cope with my emotions. I have struggled with my emotions my whole life, and a lot of it is the PTSD. It has ruined any chance of my ever having a normal relationship. I know some of you were asking why I was thinking of a boyfriend at a time like this, but it was brought up by my psychiatrist. He always asks if I think I am deserving of a boyfriend, and I tell him no. And then I have to hear the "I'm so great" speech. I only care about
my children, and I want them to have the best life ever. I want to be the best mom I can under these extreme circumstances of being ill and in pain. THey are very understanding and they help "take care of me". They are the greatest and I don't know what I would do without them. THey are my everything.
Thanks guys for helping me talk about
this. It really is very difficult for me. So thanks.