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Date Joined Nov 2007
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   Posted 12/15/2007 5:29 PM (GMT -6)   
I was married to a man for over 15 yrs who beat me and cheated on me. I felt like I had to stay for the kids sake of a normal life. What is normal? I was told I was ugly and old I had three kids, who would want me? Well as years passed I realized my life was slipping away. Unhappy with life and working like a dog. I undertook a new life raising my girls alone. Not soon after I divorced I was hurt at work and need surgery. I passed as I was raising kids alone.
I met a long lost love. A true friend who loved me for me. I have had two back surgeries and I still need moe. I have chronic pain and CHF I also have depression, arthritis, My back is falling a part and asthma. All of this after I got out of a dark life I hate to think about.
Now this chronic pain is my life. Why me?????

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   Posted 12/15/2007 6:14 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi dear friend...

Why you? Why me? Why not?? Life is what we decide to make of it. I too wasted 21 years of my life with a liar and rapist. Once I got out and married a wonderful man my health went down the tubes. Doesn't seem very fair does it. Well, no one promised us that life would be fair. But it's the one we're given so we best make the most of it.

I'm thankful that I've made friends like you and appreciate the encouragement I get from everyone here. I have new opportunities every day to help someone. It keeps me going. Also my family is a reason to get up every day. We don't take life for granted as most people do...we appreciate every good moment we have.

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   Posted 12/16/2007 12:09 AM (GMT -6)   
Very well said Chutzie. I think at some point we all ask that question, but still cannot come up with a really good acceptable answer. So, my best shot at it is, to try and not dwell on it too much or too often. If we did it would run us absolutely nuts. I think many of us feel this way because its all so overwhelming. When I find myself starting down that road, I switch gears the best I can and wil get up and go do something in the house, or walk outside to kind of clear my head out. Susie

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Date Joined Nov 2007
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   Posted 12/16/2007 9:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Chutz, I'm so happy I have a friend like you who make me see that life is worth living. So many times I have tried to end it but I have so much to live for. My kids grandkids and husband. I also have so many friends that have meet here that mean the world to me. You have all helped me out when my depression has bottom out. I thank you all for being my friends and showing me that the world is not perfect and if it was I would not be in pain. Thank you from the bottom of my heart....Godspeed Okonner
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