im sorry to hear your story RX. I'm not married, but this is what i often fear. Also, you don't have to be married, to be in a relationship with a non understanding partner. I once had a boyfriend who never came to see me in the hospital. At first i didnt care b/c i hate for people to see me like that, but then it started to get to me. It later turned out that he told me when his father got really sick he always had to go to hospitals and mentally he's unable to deal with the place, but he still loved and cared for me (we're still good friends by the way, just grew apart) Do you think your husband might have some deep seeded issues from his past?
My first thought in reading your post was counseling, but you said he won't go. But has he considered going to the doctor with you? maybe if he could hear your doctor actually tell him that when ur feeling well you can have sex, and explain the toll that it sometimes takes on ur body. Maybe hearing it from a professional will help. I know some people tho they love us and witness our hard times, still think that we use it as a crutch so that we don't have to do certain things. Mayb he harbors some type of resentment that he doesnt even realize.
I'm sorry about ur situation and I hope things get better fast! Stress is a monster for us. And a broken heart can be just as painful as the illness, trust me i know.
25 y/o female- crohns disease since 14
Ileostomy pending-very worried
Tried asacol,pentasa,prednisone,remicade,6mp,azasan, no avail
Worst year ever!
"For God has not given us the spirit of fear....."
Where does mine come from?!