I have a 4 yr old. I take him out to eat often, I eat what I can or not at all when we go out. He never asks why i don't eat at the restaurant, but if he did, I'd tell him I already ate, or that this is a treat for him. I certainly wouldn't say oh mommy has a boo boo in her tummy and if I eat what you're eating I'll get really sick. No way will I burden him with worries about me or guilt about me not being able to eat with him sometimes.
I don't mention to my child that I feel sick very often, I keep it to myself or complain to my husband or other grown ups.
I'd like to do more with my son, but I do what I can and he never asks me about my many toilet trips or why he can't sit on me or touch my tummy. I suppose once he starts asking me about it, I'll tell him the truth and NOT make a big deal about it because I don't want to burden him. He's a child and shouldn't have to worry about mommy being sick all the time.
If, at some point, he has concerns or worries about me, I will be quick to quash them. The truth is, we may suffer to the point where it is excruciating, but we will likely be around to see our kids grow up and have kids of their own.
So I have to agree with gumby that at some point we should ask them about
it, and then put their fears to rest with lots of reassurance and hope.
Post Edited (Roni) : 1/21/2008 12:24:03 PM (GMT-7)