Hey Nanners.......who hooooooo. You hit the mother lode. Your talking to the queen of anxiety..........I have had anxiety all my life and I know anticipatory anxiety when I hear someone talk about it. It is a lot like stage fright.
Common Anticipatory Anxiety Reactions include :
Feelings: anxious, fearful, angry, confused, hopeless, losing control, numb, sad, moody, irritable, guilty.
Behaviors: withdrawal from others or activities, disrupted routines, startle reactions, easily crying
Cognitions: preoccupation with possibility of trauma or health anxiety rises, concentration difficulties, self-doubt, worry, indecisiveness, memory difficulties
Physical complaints: muscle tension, headaches, gastric distress, sleep and appetite changes, fatigue
Talking usually helps. Share your feelings with friends, family, and on here are all good ways to work through the anxiety.
Relaxation techniques: Try deep breathing, muscle relaxation, visualization (imagining peaceful scenes), and/or listening to soothing music.
Realistic self-talk: While we can't always control what happens to us, we can always control what we say to ourselves. It's important to keep things in perspective. Talk to yourself in reasonable ways. Ask yourself "how likely is my fear?" Remind yourself that you have coped before during other challenging times. Don't just dwell on the negative but consciously look for things you can appreciate every day.
Ask yourself, What is the worse thing that could happen to you, think about it for a bit and then toss it out as if it happens you will make it through so why worry.
Everyone has their stoires of Mexico and the food. By all means take precautions and use your Valium, that is why you have the med. There is no harm in using it. I was on 40 mg of Valium a day one year ago just to get out the door. Today I take 2 mgs per day.
I fly alone now and go where ever I want. I go into my I am going to just relax and slow down mode. My mantra " I am OK" I take a deep breath while standing in long lines and accept that I cannot control the line at the ticket counter.
Choosing your seat was wise. Planning ahead is good, just be you and you will be ok.
Also, do not anticipate that you will be ruining your hubby's trip.........he is an adult and only he can ruin his trip, not your disease. This is one of those times where you must take care of you first.
I have great faith in you. I wish you peace and happiness.