1. Most things we worry about happening don't.
2. Even if they do we deal with it and move on.
Also, it makes sense to check with a doctor before a trip and make sure you have with you all the meds you might potentiall need, which means you won't be dependent on local medical resources.
Finally, it takes X-hours to fly there which means it would only take X-hours to get back home if you absolutely needed to.
Hey Nanners.......who hooooooo. You hit the mother lode. Your talking to the queen of anxiety..........I have had anxiety all my life and I know anticipatory anxiety when I hear someone talk about it. It is a lot like stage fright.
Common Anticipatory Anxiety Reactions include :
Feelings: anxious, fearful, angry, confused, hopeless, losing control, numb, sad, moody, irritable, guilty.
Behaviors: withdrawal from others or activities, disrupted routines, startle reactions, easily crying
Cognitions: preoccupation with possibility of trauma or health anxiety rises, concentration difficulties, self-doubt, worry, indecisiveness, memory difficulties
Physical complaints: muscle tension, headaches, gastric distress, sleep and appetite changes, fatigue
Talking usually helps. Share your feelings with friends, family, and on here are all good ways to work through the anxiety.
Relaxation techniques: Try deep breathing, muscle relaxation, visualization (imagining peaceful scenes), and/or listening to soothing music.
Realistic self-talk: While we can't always control what happens to us, we can always control what we say to ourselves. It's important to keep things in perspective. Talk to yourself in reasonable ways. Ask yourself "how likely is my fear?" Remind yourself that you have coped before during other challenging times. Don't just dwell on the negative but consciously look for things you can appreciate every day.
Ask yourself, What is the worse thing that could happen to you, think about it for a bit and then toss it out as if it happens you will make it through so why worry.
Everyone has their stoires of Mexico and the food. By all means take precautions and use your Valium, that is why you have the med. There is no harm in using it. I was on 40 mg of Valium a day one year ago just to get out the door. Today I take 2 mgs per day.
I fly alone now and go where ever I want. I go into my I am going to just relax and slow down mode. My mantra " I am OK" I take a deep breath while standing in long lines and accept that I cannot control the line at the ticket counter.
Choosing your seat was wise. Planning ahead is good, just be you and you will be ok. Also, do not anticipate that you will be ruining your hubby's trip.........he is an adult and only he can ruin his trip, not your disease. This is one of those times where you must take care of you first. I have great faith in you. I wish you peace and happiness.Bless you,Kitt
Diagnosed w/ Crohn’s Disease March 2007 On 150mg Azathioprine (generic Imuran), Pentasa, & Entocort (take zofran for nausea now)
Diagnosed w/ Fibromyalgia May 2007 also on Soma
Also have Arthritis, and feel like I am falling apart sometimes...
You guys are absolutely the best!!! And I truly love each of you so much. I don't know where I would have been without you all and this site. No one can understand how difficult having this disease is, except another person who is living it. I never suffered with anxiety until a few years ago. I don't even know what triggered it, but it got triggered. My husband has been there so much for me, he is truly an angel, I really feel its important for me to be there for him now. But of course I turn into a scardy cat. But you all have given me some great ideas, I will definetly use them.
I don't even know why I fret so. I have a niece who has diverticulitis and she has travelled there many, many times. So she is telling us the best restraunts to eat at, the best motel to stay in everything. What not to do, etc. And I have travelled into Mexico before, just not that far from the border. And I also love my husbands sister alot. She is 23 years my husbands senior, and since his mom has passed, she has taken the mother role in his life. So I do want to spend time with her too. And my husband wants to show me the house he was born in and share some of his country with me. So I am gonna take all your advice and am going to try to have the best time possible.
Thank you all so much for your support, I really appreciate all your kind words. And I look forward to telling you all that the trip was wonderful and how I worried for nothing.
Thanks again everyone, I truly appreciate all the great advice you gave me. I finally sat down with my husband today and told him how afraid I was. And as usual he was absolutely wonderful. He told me if it was too much for me, that we could just fly home. I guess just knowing that makes me feel better. But I know I won't do that, because he is so excited to show me everything. Thanks to you all and him I am now feeling a little less anxious. I am sure everything will be okay. I just have to learn to step out of that comfort zone. See Kitt I told you, you would be a great asset to this forum because of your experience with anxiety/depression. You nailed my anxiety exactly. If I argue with my husband (which is rare) I will instantly get the same feelings. Lyn I would like that link you discussed about cognitive therapy. I really need to work on this anxiety I have developed over the past couple of years.
I am sure this trip is going to turn out well. And I am sure that after this trip I will be wondering what all the worry was about. Thanks again everyone, I don't know what I would do without you all. I consider you all part of my family. Us yucky guts gotta stick together.