I'm sorry that your doctor is a dimwit. I understand the other posters' points about
not wanting to "inflame" the situation, but I'm gonna have to disagree. My doctor tried to play "I'm the boss" with me, and I fought back...somewhat tactfully. After the first horrific appointment with the nitwit I was so furious that I researched everything on the internet, printed it out, and faxed it to his office, accompanied by a cover sheet containing the remainder of my unanswered questions. I believe my cover letter said something along the lines of
"In preparation for my follow-up appointment next week, I have researched my concerns as best that I can. It seems as though you are very strapped for time in the office, so I thought it might be helpful if you were able to review these documents prior to my appointment so that we may discuss my concerns in depth at that time. Thank you in advance for your time and attention to my well-being. I look forward to discussing these issues at my next appointment."
I never thought in a million years that it would work, but it did. He went from treating me like a whiney 2 year old, to treating me like a reasonably intelligent adult who is self-aware, and more than capable of making major heath care decisions when given the right information.
I don't know if it would help you to do the same... like the others said - it might make it worse... but I thought I'd chime in with my two cents from the dark side!
26f, dx'd CD July '05 after 6 fistula/abscess surgeries
Remicade only, every 16 weeks.
Digestive enzymes, and probiotics.
Doing pretty darn good, all things considered.
"Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond measure."