I've had to tell my family members about
several health issues. Since they are mostly auto-immune (like Lupus and Crohn's) I explain that "my immune system is attacking my connective tissue." Or "my immune system is attacking my gut." If they ask more questions, then I give them a bit more info. If they don't pursue more info, I drop it.
Recently dx'd with crohn's . . . I told the closest and emailed the rest. That way I could carefully tell what is going on and not have them stuck with having to respond immediately to embarrassing stuff.
One called, one emailed back, etc. They've each handled it in "their own way".
I know what you mean with the elderly . . . I'm really careful how I explain to my 87 yr old M-I-L because it really is upsetting to them.
Because your grandparents will be able to "see you" it will be easier for them to believe that you are OK. Remind them that you've had these issues for a long time, but that the docs finally have a name for it and that now it can be properly treated. That seems to help too.
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UCTD, Inflammatory Arthritis, Diverticulosis, (recent dx - Sjogrens, Crohn’s 4/08)
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