Cleo-I did reverse my ileo, only to have a new one a few months later.
A couples points might be: 1)if you are dating someone and want to tell them, great, but they don't have to know unless you want them to know 2)if they are worthy of you, they will understand that it gives you a QUALITY of life (one without meds/pains etc) 3)wouldn't being able to spend time, real quality time, with your grandson trump a reveral? (no guarantees things will be good) 4)meds!
If I understand colostomies, you do have a few more options than I do with an ileo. Have you tried irrigation and using a cap? I know I wish I could!!
I know life with a stoma has its challenges, but at least for me, it is worth it!! I hope that your decision goes well...Best of luck!