sceptical about forthcoming trip

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   Posted 7/10/2008 12:51 AM (GMT -7)   
Dear cyber-friends!
My problem is this:  I have been invited to a colleague's wedding end of August.  The wedding will take place in Salonica, the second biggest city of Greece, and of course all my colleagues are invited.  I will take the plane (45 minutes flight) and then stay for two days in a very nice hotel there.  The thing is that one of my colleagues asked me if I want to share a room with her so we will pay less money.  Don't get me wrong, it's a first class hotel, with swimming pool, sauna etc. and all the others will be staying 2 in each room for that reason.  I am really excited to go, but really need my privacy when it comes to the room.  As you understand I have difficult mornings in the bathroom, and I hate the idea that a colleague will be sitting next door listening to all the strange noises my bowels make every morning.  What should I do?
I'm leaving in 10 days for my summer holidays in the island where we have a big house, I will stay there for a month with my kids my husband, his sister and her kids, but there I don't mind, because all of them are my family, and they are very understanding when it comes to bathroom issues.  Imagine, when I tell them I have to use the bathroom, they are all gone within 5 seconds ha ha....
But the wedding trip is so much different.  I really want to go, it will be good for me to relax and do something for myself for a change... but I hate the idea of sharing a room....  Plus I really don't think the cost of the room is so high...
Christina cool

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   Posted 7/10/2008 5:39 AM (GMT -7)   

Wow sounds like a great time!

Either way you're going to have to be honest.  If you want to have your own room and pay extra then let your colleague know your situation.  Does your colleagues already now about you having Crohn's?  If they do, it should be a easy conversation. 

The way I feel anymore is that you have to do what will make you happy and have a good time.  You can't worry about what everyone else will think or we would never leave our houses. :-)

Best of luck and have a BLAST! tongue



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   Posted 7/10/2008 6:59 AM (GMT -7)   
I would just explain to your coworker that you have Crohns and would be more comfortable in a room by yourself. Go ahead and enjoy yourself. P.S. I would pay for my own room too.
Been living with Crohn's Disease for 32 years.  Currently on Asacol, Prilosec 60 mg, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain and Calcium.  Resections in 2002 and 2005.  Recently diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and doing tests to see if I have Inflammatory Arthritis or AS.

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   Posted 7/10/2008 7:16 AM (GMT -7)   

I ran into a similar issue before I was diagnosed. I told them I felt a little sick and wanted my own room last minute. I would be honest and say you are a bathroom hog :-)   or something like that. If the colleague pushes let them know you need to have your own room or about the CD.

HAVE FUN! I am jealous!



Karen (Karendee)

Diagnosed w/ Crohn’s Disease  March 2007 On 150mg Azathioprine (generic Imuran), Pentasa, & Entocort Switching to Humira June 2008 will wean off Pentasa and Entocort

Diagnosed w/  Fibromyalgia May 2007 also on Soma - Also on Prilosec for reflux.



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   Posted 7/10/2008 8:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Definitely go and definitely get your own room. I went on a short trip with 2 friends last year. While they understood my crohn's, I really needed my own room. I vowed then not to share again and I won't! You might tell your colleague that you get up tons during the night to use the bathroom and it has been your experience that it's best not to share. S/he can ask someone else. Have a great time!
23 years with moderate Crohn's/colitis; fistulizing crohn's; pentasa, just started humira

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   Posted 7/10/2008 12:05 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm with Nanners, be honest and just explain why you need your own room. I'd have to have my own room too! Have a great time!
Diagnosed with Crohn's Disease 2/06 after sever GI bleed. Has been suffering since 1998. History of rectal fistula and gallbladder removal. Currently taking Prednisone: tapered to 5 mg *eek*, Asacol, Questran, Toprol XL (for high blood pressure).

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   Posted 7/10/2008 3:15 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree with everyone else, say thank you for the offer but you really want/need your own. Then go and enjoy yourself. I would hate sharing a room with someone I work with or anyone not family or as close as family. I would rather just go pay my own room and be able to enjoy the whole trip without dreading the shared moments.

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   Posted 7/10/2008 4:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Hope you get your own room because like you said family is one thing but fellow friends and co workers are another. Have a great time and we"ll all be waiting to hear how you made out. lol gail

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   Posted 7/10/2008 5:14 PM (GMT -7)   
If you feel uncomfortable sharing I room, I'd definitely tell your colleague that you need your own room. I've passed up on trips with my co-workers because I just wouldn't feel comfortable sharing a small space with them (camper - ugh). I go on a ski trip every year and either share a condo with a group of people, with my own room and bathroom or get my own room in a hotel. The next ski trip is to Lake Louise and instead of a condo, the group is staying in a hotel, two to a room. I looked into getting my own room - it's $599/night, Canadian. I'm going to pass on the ski trip rather than share a room (unless I can find a deaf roommate who also has no sense of smell)! Have fun!
50 y/o F. CD dx'd Aug 05. Initially on Pentasa, then Imuran 125 mg. Started Humira (very reluctantly) on 10/24/07. Ileocolectomy 4/08.

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   Posted 7/10/2008 11:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks so much guys for your replies.  I thought about it yesterday evening, discussed it with hubby, and decided to get my own room.  To answer your question some of my co-workers know that I have CD, but still they don't understand my daily struggle.  Some others don't know about it, and I don't think they need to know, because I'm tired of explaining.
So in order to have fun and have piece of mind, I will get my own room, and I will enjoy the trip and the wedding as much as I can.  It's not too often where I get to have two days holiday just by myself, so I intent to make the best out of it.
Christina tongue

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   Posted 7/11/2008 1:47 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm glad to hear you made a decision and I hope you have a great time! I understand about not wanting to keep going into it about your disease with people...lately I feel like all I've been talking about is bowel movements, bleeding, and colonoscopies lol. It gets annoying fast plus it's a pretty personal thing to keep talking to other people about.
27 female
Bipolar, panic disorder, PTSD, PCOS, hashimoto's disease/hypothyroidism, and in the process of being diagnosed with crohns. Too many meds to list!

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