Obviously he needs to work on his sense of smooth...LOL
Granted I tell people up front, because I do not have my disease under control and so I get poopie pants at least once a week. I swear I am like a poorly potty trained tottler sometimes. (but at least I think it is funny, but that is a defense against the pain and embassment of having poopie pants, believe me no one wants poopie pants) So if I sprint out of the room or puke in a trashcan they know it is just my disease kicking in. Usually I mention something about
Ben Stiller in "Along came Polly" and that gets a laugh out of folks, but he had IBS, not IBD.
Perhaps he is newly diagonsed and still feeling kinda morbid about
it. I assume he is on one of the biologics or MTX while they may give you cancer, it is not a garentee that you will get cancer. As for lack of fear about
death is the machismo of youth speaking, obviously he feels the need to say that because he is feeling verable about
his disease. (although please don't say anything to him about
vernerablity he will not admit it)
If he has active disease then it is alot like having a chronic case of the stomach flu. (remember how you felt the last time you had something like that?) There are many different manifastations of this disease and it is more a wait and see what he does and how he does...
Do not feel the need to fill the uncomfortable silences he may be trying to figure this out too. Silence isn't always a bad thing.
As for tips, just let him talk...
I do want to caveat this with I have not seriously dated since before my diagonsis, because trying to find someone that can handle this is difficult. There are many different degrees of this illness and I am rather severe case.
But as Marilyn Monroe said, "If you can't handle me at my worse, you don't deserve me at my best." But of course Marilyn Monroe could say that...LOL
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