lost a spouse due to this DD?

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   Posted 9/22/2008 10:26 AM (GMT -7)   
<SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana">How many ppl have lost spouses due to this DD? As in them leaving because they don't want to deal with you and your problems (complications) anymore? [img]/community/emoticons/shakehead.gif[/img] I'm pretty sure that's what has happened to me. I think she just got sick and tired of it all..........

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   Posted 9/22/2008 10:42 AM (GMT -7)   
I have not, but I'm sorry to hear that. Just remember that some people just aren't strong/patient enough to deal with stuff like this. Hang in there!

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   Posted 9/22/2008 11:05 AM (GMT -7)   
How awful. I am sorry this ahs happened to you. The disease is bad enough. But, mj8 is correct. Some just can't deal. You are no doubt a strong person. You must be strong to deal with CD long term. Focus on getting better. Maybe she'll reconsider.
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   Posted 9/22/2008 12:48 PM (GMT -7)   
john i did...one more good reason i got this disease :)
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   Posted 9/22/2008 12:49 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi I also am divorced because my ex-wife could not handle my crohn's .
Hi, I am teddybearweiser, I am a male.
I was diagnosed with crohns disease when i was admitted to the hospital

in 1992, in Jan of 1993 I was back in the hospital for surgery for my crohns. I had part of my right colon resectioned with ilecolonstomy.

My GI doctor has me on Asacol, Dicyclomine,Imuran,Celebrex and Remicade. B-12 injection once a month.
Also diagnosed with Osteoarthritis and Rheumatoid Arthritis

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   Posted 9/22/2008 12:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh John, I am so sorry. I have not lost my husband thankfully, as he is my rock. It was rough going at first, he did not understand what was going on (like I did?) and would tell me to just "Go to the doctor and "fix" it." Thankfully as time went on and we learned what was really going on, things got better. At first I was homebound and couldn't leave the house without having the big D, so as I found treatments that helped, things got better between us. He gets it though when I'm flaring and can't leave now. Education was key to him.

But for some people it is too hard to deal with. They should try actually having it like we do huh? It's not something we have the pleasure of running away from. I hope you're able to find someone who can be understanding and walk right along with you in this fight. We all need that support system.
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   Posted 9/22/2008 1:25 PM (GMT -7)   


What an awful person to leave someone because of a disease.... you will be better off without her. and if you believe in Karma she is going to get hers.... (sorry to sound so mean to her but she deserves it)

I am sorry this has happened to you..

I really think you should look into therapy. This is a loss and you need to deal with it and a chronic illness plus some other issues I see in your signature.

I am going to my first group therapy meeting this Wednesday.  I have decided I need to deal with my illness, problems and not just medicate them.

good luck to you!



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   Posted 9/22/2008 2:54 PM (GMT -7)   
I was with my both dating and married for about 23 years. she was with me when i was dxed and through all the surgeries, and the numerous ER visits. She was my rock. the only person i could always lean on. I guess I leaned once too many times. we've been together since high school. i guess the past two years being in bed more often then no was too much.

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   Posted 9/22/2008 5:50 PM (GMT -7)   
I lost my hubby of 28 years due to my crohns. He honestly couldn't be strong enough to deal with it. He did the best he could, and it killed me to see his fear and anxiety over my illness. It's not that he didn't love me. I understand that. We are best friends still.

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   Posted 9/23/2008 12:51 AM (GMT -7)   
or it could have been an easy excuse .. like as in "gee , now i dont have to tell them the real reason" affair,gay, wanted more money ,wanted to be alone etc...


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   Posted 9/23/2008 2:01 AM (GMT -7)   
It's very sad, and of course I understand how you feel.  But think of it this way:  you really deserve to have someone by your side who cares for you and is willing to deal with your problems, not because she has to, but because she wants to.  And the fact is, that some people just can't handle difficulties long term, which is OK, because we are human beings, and each one of us have our own personalities and limits.  You deserve to find someone more suitable for you, and she deserves to find hapiness in whatever form she has in mind.
Maybe at this point it's hard for you to understand it, but in the near future maybe you will find a way to forgive her, and most of all forgive yourself, because I know from personal experience that although we didn't ask for this desease, deep inside there are times we blame ourselves for not being as strong as we would like to be.
I trully believe that in this life everything happens for a reason, and maybe breaking up with your partner, will lead you to more hapiness, some time.
Take care, and keep smiling,

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   Posted 9/24/2008 4:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi John I know we cain't take the place of someone you have been with but we are here for each other and we all can lean on each other for support. That will help you and we need all the friends and support we can get so were very glad you are here with us. lol gail
Hallarious woman over 50 ,CD ,IBS 27 years--resection,fistula's,obstructions,and still alive.lol gail

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