Starting over w/Crohn's after divorce

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Date Joined Sep 2008
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   Posted 9/25/2008 8:04 PM (GMT -7)   
confused  I am recently seperated and getting divorced after 19 years in a bad marriage!!  I am now the single mother to two great boys (13 & 16)and I am living with Crohn's.  I think part of the reason I stayed for so long was low self esteem which Crohn's played a big part in.  The amount of stress believe it or not is sooo much less getting out of that environment, but I am now forced to be head of the house.  I worry if I get down or have a bad flare how will I manage?  It is kinda scary!!  I can't imagine finding someone else eventually to love me with all this baggage!!  That's a long way off though.  I am concentrating on my kids, my class (I'm a teacher), and my mom,dad, and brother.  Those of you out there that have loving supportive spouses give them an extra hug tonight and thank them and relize how lucky you are. 

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Date Joined Apr 2008
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   Posted 9/25/2008 8:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Kimmy, I'm really sorry that you were in the situation. I had to watch my mother and my aunt go through the same thing for years and not be able to do anything, but I could see how much it hurt them..
I really hope that starting over will bring wonderful things for you and your sons. I'm sure they will help take care of you when you need it :) My siblings and I try to help my mother and be there for her when she is having rough periods in her life(and she has been there through and through with my Crohn's that's for sure).
I do appreciate my fiance and all he has done..I hope you find someone that can understand your situation and love you for who you are. They are out there!!!
20 years old, Diagnosed with severe Crohn's and colitis in May of 2008.
Currently taking:
Prednisone, pentasa, alinia, bentyl, prilosec, tandem plus, and the occasional ultracet
Surgery for ectopic pregnancy(very possibly due to Crohn's inflammation) in July of 2008.
Due to start Imuran September 17 depending on blood results.

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Date Joined Apr 2005
Total Posts : 14995
   Posted 9/26/2008 6:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Kimmy2 my exhusband up and left me and my girls back in 1991. At that point I had lived with Crohns for about 16 years. I was in remission at the time, and thru shear luck I stayed that way until 1999.

I think it is smart that you concentrate on your kids first. I dated some in the beginning but decided my kids needed me more than I needed another man. So once they were older and out of the house I made the decision to date again. Ended up getting back with the father of my oldest daughter and have never been happier in my life. I have been blessed with the most amazing husband, who takes such gentle care of me. Massages some part of my aching body every single day. What I am trying to say, is take your time to heal from this painful marriage and get rid of any emotional baggage you may have picked up. Heal your heart and within time someone else will be along to fill your heart with love again. JMHO Good luck to you and your kids.

God Bless,
Gail *Nanners*
Been living with Crohn's Disease for 32 years.  Currently on Asacol, Prilosec 60 mg, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain and Calcium.  Resections in 2002 and 2005.  Recently diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and doing tests to see if I have Inflammatory Arthritis or AS.

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