Reocurring Crohns

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Joseph B.
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   Posted 10/7/2008 11:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone. I'm Joseph. I'm 18 yrs. old and have had crohns for almost two years now. My docs (both medical and nature path) told me I had one of the most aggressive forms of crohns. To say the least, I was very discouraged and scared. I didn't have the diarrhea but I did have a major blockage. It hurt so terribly. I was in bed for at least three days a week in intense pain. My stomach would swell on the right side and I would throw up occasionally. I was typically 140lbs. but that inside of about eight months dropped to about 110. It really hit the last three months. None of the ct scans showed up that I was also dealing with chronic appendicitis at the time as well. Crohns had started then infected the appendix. NASTY. My transverse colon had grown into my ascending colon causing the blockage. There is not one area of my bowls that is not infected. I had to have surgery. I was in Overlake Hospital in Redmond, Wa for about six days fighting infection. The docs said no amount of steroid or diet would have helped my condition. Since the surgery, I've been on a really strict diet and have gotten my weight up to 150! I'm starting to feel it again. It's a sickening and deep pain that is so distinctive. For as long as I live, I will never forget that pain. I'm on Remecade and that seems to be keeping it under control for the most part. I've been living off the diet books, "Breaking the Vicious Cycle" and "The Makers Diet". Both great books.

I first started getting sick when I lost my girlfriend. My doctor said that most guys 16-18 are getting it and the main cause is the loss of a friend or relationship. That sucked! And the worst part of it is... I still struggle with that loss. It still hurts. So, I guess my main question is: If anyone is going through a similar attack from a lost relationship, what is the best thing to do? I simply haven't figured it out. I see this girl every week and it just gets harder and harder. I hurt when I'm around her. HELP PLEASE!!!

Thanks! smilewinkgrin

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   Posted 10/8/2008 5:38 AM (GMT -7)   
Joseph B. said...
I first started getting sick when I lost my girlfriend. My doctor said that most guys 16-18 are getting it and the main cause is the loss of a friend or relationship. That sucked!

Hi Joseph and welcome! I had to read that sentence several times to let it sink in. That does "suck" that a doctor would think, let alone share that. I can't believe it!!! What kind of doctor would make a statement like that?--it's totally irresponsible and totally incorrect! Please know that the loss of your girlfriend did NOT cause your Crohn's! There are those who believe stress can play a roll in a flare up of Crohn's, but it certainly does NOT cause it!

I am sorry you've had to bear both the physical and emotional pain you've recently been through. Life can be very, very trying at times. You sound like you are really taking the bull by the horns when it comes to your Crohn's and are healing physically. That is REALLY GREAT!!! You should be very proud of yourself! Now it's time to heal emotionally, as well. Please seek help from someone in dealing with your loss and moving on--a parent, friend, clergy person, counselor, etc. who will listen and lend support, might be a place to start.

Best wishes to you!
Mom to 16 year old boy diagnosed in June, 2007.
Omega 3s, digestive enzymes, probiotics, vit. C, calcium w/D3, a good multivitamin and SCD legal yogurt
Started The Maker's Diet in Sept. '07. Gradually learning/using more SCD recipes, too! (cooking challenged)

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   Posted 10/8/2008 5:59 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Joseph! I agree 100% with EMom. The stress of losing your girlfriend did NOT cause Crohn's. People are usually teens/mid-20s when they are diagnosed with CD.

To get more info on the disease and how to deal, go to It's a really cool site. Also, try to deal with the emotional stress of your ex-gf. That will just make the pain (emotionally/physically) worse. And you have more important things to worry about right now--like your health!

Just put one foot in front of the other. Things will get better.

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   Posted 10/8/2008 6:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Joseph and welcome to Healingwell. I too have to agree with the above, the loss of your girlfriend was not the cause of your Crohns. As for how to deal with it, maybe you should look in to speaking with a therapist. Not only for the loss of your girlfriend but also to help with the emotional aspects of this DD. I see one myself and I have had this DD for over 30 years. Stress is really hard on us, and I think if you can get some help talking to someone, you will feel alot better, and be able to deal with the stressors of this DD. Good luck!
Been living with Crohn's Disease for 32 years.  Currently on Asacol, Prilosec 60 mg, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain and Calcium.  Resections in 2002 and 2005.  Recently diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and doing tests to see if I have Inflammatory Arthritis or AS.

Joseph B.
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Date Joined Oct 2008
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   Posted 10/8/2008 7:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey, thanks! Umm... I haven't been anywhere where they haven't said that. Weird. I've talked to a lot of people and they guarantee that that's the cause! So, I'm wondering what it could be. Have they found any other thing that is the "head" of causing crohns? Actually, that is really nice to hear. That is a lot of weight and baggage. I know. I was heavily involved with martial arts for five years. I HAD to get out of that. When I started hurting...that didn't do me any good. I did tons of sparring and took sometimes rather harsh blows to the gastro area leaving me not able to breathe normally for a long time. I got used to it after a while and just moved one but maybe that's something. Maybe?

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   Posted 10/8/2008 8:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi As far as I know they have not found the cause of it but are still looking. As mentioned above we get stressed and it sometimes makes things worse. I try to reduce stress. Glad to see you have moved on to someone else. My teen gave up karote because it bothered the bowels and as of now has IBS diagnosis. Crohn's happens and I found lots of support here. Some cases are mild, moderat, or severe. I also have to get B-12 shots alot of people here have low B-12. I also follow a low roughege diet that heps too. I guess the thing is for us to find things to help us as a individual as we have different bodies and some of us follow what is good for our own situation. lol gail
Hallarious woman over 50 ,CD ,IBS 27 years--resection,fistula's,obstructions,and still gail

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 10/8/2008 9:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Joe,
I was told that most times a gastro bug or virus starts it, but that it IS going to come if you have that defective gene.  Mine started when I got some intestinal bug and it just seemed to never go away.  After 3 months i finally went in for a colonoscopy and they found it.  I was VERY lucky, they found it early.
33 years old. Diagnosed in 2002ish. 
Taking Asacol, Lomotil TID, and on Remicade since 2004. 
Lower Bowel area only, except for the short stint (about 2 weeks) that I had mouth sores.  Also have external/anal fistula and anal/vaginal fistula. 

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