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   Posted 10/9/2008 8:58 PM (GMT -7)   
I am a nervous wreck right now and can't sleep. I know I am new here but over the last week all of my biggest supports in my life, my husband and my parents have turned their back on me or at least that is how it feels to me and right now the only people that I think would understand me is you all.

I signed up to run a 1/2 marathon in January to raise money for Crohn's Disease. Besides being selfish for wanting to find a cure I also knew I needed to do this for myself because if I didn't than I had let the disease win and it was either find an outlet like this to deal with my feelings or go on anti-depression medicine and starting seeing a therapist. I love working out and know I can manage my emotions if I set a goal like this one. I have been trying to hold it together for 2.5 years and mentally I just need to do this for myself. I was so excited about doing this and finally meeting other people in my area with CD and UC and have people around me that truelly know what I go through every day. But no one close to me seems to understand.

My parents are against it because they are worried about the stress it will cause (my doctor is even encouraging it) and my husband is worried about the stress as well over raising the money. I have told my best friends and they have complete apprehension about it and me raising the money. My husband has never given up on me and I think that is what has upset me the most is not having his support. I have to raise $3600 which my heart sunk when I heard that number because my husband and I already gave a large donation in the spring to CCFA and I hate pressuring people for money.

Against all my rational thoughts I signed up to raise that much because in my heart I feel that I need to do this for myself. I have raised $400 so far and have been planing fund raising ideas all week. I told my husband about them and he basically told me that I am not being real with the goal and that he is sorry that the economy has turned and that it is not my fault but that I basically need to give up.

I am still determined to do this, I don't know how I am going to do it but I am going to run the race and raise the money if I have to die trying. That is why I have come to all of you, I just need to hear someone tell me that they understand this struggle in my head with the disease and that I am not crazy for having to do this for myself. I constantly think about other people and for once I need to do things my own way. If anyone can give me any type of encouragement, fund raising ideas, inspirational quotes, you name it, I need it right now.

Thank you for listening,

To support my 1/2 Marathon run to raise money for Crohn's Disease, please go to:
1/2 Marathon Fund Raising

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   Posted 10/9/2008 9:05 PM (GMT -7)   
Lisa---The best of luck and well wishes for your marathon----prayers too..

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   Posted 10/9/2008 10:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Doesn't really sound like they're not supporting you, sounds more like they're really concerned about it being too much for you and they don't want to see you get worse over it, quite the opposite of turning their backs on you really.

You do what you feel you have to do and regardless of the outcome (amount of $$ raised and such) feel proud of yourself, as I'm sure they will.

My bum is broken....there's a big crack down the middle of it! LOL :)

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   Posted 10/10/2008 3:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi How about selling tickets on a food hamper at local stores or bingo hall. Also bake goods seem to always sell at least in Nova Scotia. I think it is good to do something as long as it does not stress you out. So it means giving up the worry and stress and doing it in a way that makes you feel good about yourself. You try something but allow yourself the leeway to fail from there it is all up not down. 400 already is a good amount. lol gail
Hallarious woman over 50 ,CD ,IBS 27 years--resection,fistula's,obstructions,and still gail

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   Posted 10/10/2008 5:41 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you everyone for your encouragement. I know that my family and husband are just looking out for what they think is my best interest, it is just hard because I want them to realize that doing this raise and raising awareness of the disease is what will make me feel better. I am proud of my $400 and I have faith that I can raise the rest, I just want them to have faith in me too.

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   Posted 10/10/2008 6:08 AM (GMT -7)   

Go for it!!!!  As long as your doctor says it's okay for you,then do what you feel is right.I agree,sounds like your family is worried,you have to be smart,when you do the marathon,as for anybody,if you start to feel fatigue in any way,stop,and rest.listen to your body.


Have fun and be safe smilewinkgrin

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   Posted 10/10/2008 6:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Then tell them that if you haven't already. I'm sure they understand, but it is only natural that they worry. As much as people don't understand how limiting this disease can be they also don't understand that we generally will know our own limitations.
Just keep trying :) I wish you the best of luck!!
20 years old, Diagnosed with moderate to severe Crohn's and Colitis in May of 2008.
Currently taking:
Prednisone(down to 10 mg), pentasa, bentyl as needed, prilosec, tandem plus, humira, and good probiotics
Surgery for ectopic pregnancy most likely the result of severe Crohn's inflammation in July of 2008.

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