I recommend the sitz baths for the toilets at Walgreens or CVS. Or, if you are lucky enough to go to the ER, just ask them for one! :) They are usually happy to give you one, especially if you have an abscess or fistula.
But, what you describe sounds like an abscess. Typically, mine fistualize and then I find a small hole. I've been known to take a sterile needle and find the fistula part and put a needle through it. Yeah, probably not the smartest thing, but if not, it gets to the point of swelling up so huge that it hurts. But, I don't do that unless I know where the opening of the fistula is...typically it has a dimple effect somewhere. Once some of the junk and blood come out, it gets more comfortable. But, if the abscess gets to large, watch out.. it's one of the most PAINFUL things I've EVER experienced...next to birth! (Seriously! - not even the MORPHINE helped my first abscess).
Someone also told me if you are trying to get stuff out of it...PULL on the skin around it and don't push it like a pimple, if that makes sense. The warm compresses will DEFINITELY bring it to the skin. I would usually take a warm washcloth to bed and tuck it on the abscess and by morning, sometimes it would pop or be ready to pop. Not to be too graphic, but where I get mine, my underwear lines tend to pop them for me.
Ugh! Lovely fistulas and abscesses.... sorry you are battling this!
Kaycie - Age: 26
Crohn's - Dx Nov 05
Failed Remicade, moving onto a Clinical Trial called ABT-874 - Tentative start date - 10/2/08 - 10/16/08 - Infusion, every 4 weeks.
IVF #1 (In-Vitro Fertilization) - Failed
IVF #2 - IVIg, Heparin, Baby Aspirin - TWIN GIRLS!!!
Reagan Dawn - 8/2/07 - Lived 1 hour 27 minutes due to Cloaca, NOT affiliated with my Crohn's
Addison Maria - 8/2/07 - 13 months old