My daughter has learned what she can eat by trial and error. She was probably having the symptons of Crohns for months before her first hospitalization. For months before she couldn't drink coffee any more and she definitely stayed away from fast food. After her initial hospital stay in July, 2007 where they just have her mega doses of anitbiotics, her appendix disentegrated and that infection and pus became infused with her intestines. In the surgery in August, 2007, they removed that part of her intestines that was damaged and had to clean the rest because there was a mess. But after the surgery she did very well until this abcess. As long as the abcess is draining she feels fine, but when it backs up a bit she has excrucaiting pain. She is still on cipro and doesn't take anything for pain. After her last drain was put in she took ibuprophen and cried alot. So I know the pain is bad. Her next step may be another type of drain.
I know of a young man that had to have the bag (colostomy) for a short time for his intestine to heal and it really was not bad at all. After he was healed they reversed it. It may not be the worst thing you have gone through, especially if you are in a great deal of pain.
My daughter still calls Mom every day and I go with her to her doctor appointments. Nothing wrong with that.