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   Posted 11/14/2008 9:42 AM (GMT -7)   
So let's say you're going on vacation with some friends.  You're going to a fancy place where the restaurants are "one price" places.  You pay, say $35 for the 5-course meal and you have choices of appetizers, salads, soups, main meal and desserts.
Now for me, I canNOT eat all that food! wink   I can eat pretty much anything with my Crohn's but a salad OR soup OR just a baked potato would be all I could fit in.  That much food is just too much on my gut.  But your friends CAN do that amount of food and are hungry enough to handle it all! 
What do YOU do in this situation?
1)  Go and pay the $35 for the dinner and eat only what you're able to - even if that means a $35 baked potato just to enjoy a dinner out with your friends.
2)  Go and just not pay anything or eat anything...maybe bring some crackers in or take a few bites off your friends' plates.
3)  Ask the restaurant if they can accomodate your illness by only charging you for one or two items on the menu.
I'm just curious as to what other Crohnies would do before I get stuck in this situation next month.  My friends are perfectly fine going to a regular restaurant where I CAN just get a baked potato or something small but if they want the "full experience", I don't want them to miss out on that just because of me.
What say you people????? smilewinkgrin
Diagnosed in October, 2004 at age 32.
Current Rx's: Colazal (generic), Nexium (generic), Ferrous Sulfate, Librax, One-A-Day multivitamin, Probiotic, Omega-3 Fish Oil, Vitamin D, Vitamin A, Calcium-Magnesium-Zinc, Cranberry pills, Chromium Picolinate
Secondary conditions: mouth ulcers, joint pain, swelling ankles, extreme fatigue
Previous/occasional Rx's: 20mg Prednisone taper, Flagyl, Levaquin
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   Posted 11/14/2008 9:50 AM (GMT -7)   
i would go, pay the $35, and eat a few small bites from everything :) don't just fill up on one thing..that way u can enjoy a taste from each course :) i know how it is because before i was diagnosed i could eat alot and i mean alot! i enjoyed eating alot when i went out to dinner, to the point where i felt like i had to be rolled out of the restaurant lol..but now my body cant handle that overeating so taking a few bites from everything rather than eating one thing is what works for just give you more variety that way and makes u feel more normal :) good luck :)
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   Posted 11/14/2008 9:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Are you going to be going to a fancy restaurant every night? Will it be a different one each night? or are we talking about a one night out during a week long vacation? Could you call the restaurants in advance, ask to speak to the manager, explain that you have a medical condition and ask if you could be accommodated. Maybe they could charge you a child's rate and give you a child's portion.

If its for one night out of a whole week, I would probably just suck it up, pay the price and just eat what I could, but if it is every night, then maybe I would try to call ahead. If you have to shell out extra money every night you will end up in a bad mood by the end of the vacation which defeats the purpose of a vacation.

CD 19 years offically, 29 unofficially. 3 resections '93, '95 '97
Symptoms constantly but all tests show only minor ulcerations. Currently having multiple episodes of gastritis with no known cause.

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   Posted 11/14/2008 11:52 AM (GMT -7)   
It'll just be one night. And I've always usually just paid the high price and eaten a little bit anyway. Even at regular restaurants, I might get a $10-whatever but still only eat half. And this IS a special occasion. All very good ideas. I have thought of calling the manager just to see what they'd say. I'll probably end up doing that, just to see if they'd be accomodating. :)
Diagnosed in October, 2004 at age 32.
Current Rx's: Colazal (generic), Nexium (generic), Ferrous Sulfate, Librax, One-A-Day multivitamin, Probiotic, Omega-3 Fish Oil, Vitamin D, Vitamin A, Calcium-Magnesium-Zinc, Cranberry pills, Chromium Picolinate
Secondary conditions: mouth ulcers, joint pain, swelling ankles, extreme fatigue
Previous/occasional Rx's: 20mg Prednisone taper, Flagyl, Levaquin
No surgeries to date

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   Posted 11/14/2008 1:32 PM (GMT -7)   
It would be worth calling. They might have one course that sounds just right and they could charge you just for that!
27 Year old married female law student (last year!!). Diagnosed w/ CD 4 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. I am sort of lactose intollerant too but can handle anything cultured and do well w/ lactose pills and lactaid. For crohns I am currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day and hysociamine prn. I also have bad acid reflux and have been on PPI's since age 13. I have been through prilosec, prevacid, and nexium. Currently I am on Protonix in the morning and Zantac at night. I also take a birth control pill to allow some fun in my life.

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   Posted 11/14/2008 1:39 PM (GMT -7)   
I bet they would have some sort of system to accomodate someone with a medical condition. With all the food allergies out there, you would think they would have to. Good luck and have fun!

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   Posted 11/14/2008 2:27 PM (GMT -7)   
I would go pay the money, eat a little of everything and if possible take home what you don't eat for left overs the next day. 
It is frustrating to not be able to eat as much. 

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   Posted 11/14/2008 2:31 PM (GMT -7)   
I would go and pay it. Just because you don't have a lot of room in your belly doesn't mean you can't go and enjoy the evening with your friends. Plus, who may encounter something that you could make on your own.
27/f/CD. 4 CD related surgeries: 2 resections, 2 JP drains, 3 NG tubes, many absesses (including the one my most recent surgery scraped off my ovary) and fistulas.
Currently trying to figure out hip and knee joint pain.
Have lost in these surgeries: appendix, 8 in. intestine, R fallopian tube, gallbladder, 10 in. intestine
Dx'd: February 2007.
Pentasa (and much mental screaming)

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   Posted 11/14/2008 2:50 PM (GMT -7)   

Funny I never have the leftover food hubby finishes what I don't! tongue

I usually would just pay the full price, share some of the extras (you are with friends after all) and see if I could get a to go container for the rest.  Of course I have also been known to not eat for a whole day just so I could enjoy the dinner out too.

Dx'd '90 (emergency rupture), symptoms ignored long before that, '03 fistulas and bad flagyl reactions, B12 weekly, Pentasa [until I surrender to the bigger meds]
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   Posted 11/14/2008 4:35 PM (GMT -7)   
My husband and I have often called ahead. Not only do I have Crohn's (and spent three years on a low fiber/low residue diet), with all of the Crohnnie restrictions (nuts, seeds, corn, etc.), but we don't eat red meat or poultry, and we don't eat a lot of fat. If it's really a "fancy" restaurant, they're usually incredibly accommodating about special needs--and I'm sure they'll make some kind of price adjustment if you tell them that you're only able to eat the baked potato and a cup of soup. You'll have a lot more trouble at standard, chain-type restaurants--but at a "good" place, the wait staff and kitchen staff are trained to accommodate client needs.

Decades ago, I was traveling in Europe, and I got deathly sick. It was diagnosed as gastroenteritis, but I guarantee you that it was my first (undiagnosed) Crohn's flare. I was a poor student, and I'd been eating nothing but snack food and sandwiches in little cafes. After I saw the local doctor, I could go to very fancy restaurants and tell the staff that I could only eat a little plain white rice, a little applesauce, and a small glass of red wine. They charged me almost nothing--and the rice felt great--and I had the experience of getting dressed up and going to someplace I normally couldn't afford.

Another wonderful thing to do (especially for a vegetarian) is to go out to a fancy steakhouse and explain that you're a vegetarian (or have other special dietary restrictions) and just get the sides. The sides in a good steakhouse are fabulous! You can get a baked potato as big as a newborn baby--or a head of broccoli as big as your head--or beautiful asparagus, grilled mushrooms, or an enormous salad. It doesn't cost much, and you feel festive and wonderful.

You can always just suck up the $35 (and take the leftovers home). But you can also try calling ahead--or taking the server aside when you're first seated--and explaining your dietary restrictions. A good restaurant will help you out, almost always. If they can't help you, then they're not that good!

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   Posted 11/14/2008 7:22 PM (GMT -7)   
I would go an pay the 35 as well and eat what you can and whatever amount of each item you're comfortable with...35.00 for a 5 course meal, wow, where is this at, I find that quite reasonable myself in comparison to where I live (Canada) you would pay at least 50 or more at a fancy restaurant for a 5 course meal for sure.

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   Posted 11/15/2008 7:14 AM (GMT -7)   
At most of the nicer restaurants prixe fixe is one option or you have the choice of ordering off of the ala carte menu.

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