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   Posted 2/4/2009 12:00 PM (GMT -7)   
I am 20 yrs old and have had crohns for just over a year.  I am currently studying abroad in London.  All this would be okay but since I've been here I've had two surgeries with another most likely in a month or two, and I now have to have a second MRI and a colonoscopy.  As you could probally tell I haven't been feeling very well. I am ready to give up, I know I cant but a part of me wants to.  If I was just sick it wouldnt be so bad but I am trying to go to school at the same time and I have many group projects that I am working on.  I am finding it hard to keep up with my classes, projects, studying, procedurs, surgeries, tests, and the list goes on. Not to mention the fact that I have no social life right now.  On top of it I dont really have much of a support group here.  My mom has always been there for me and she still is just shes on the other side of the planet.
I don't really know what to do. Should I just keep going trying my hardest and not haveing any fun and feeling like I am letting people down because I am not giving something my all. Or should I pack up and go home?

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Date Joined Jan 2009
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   Posted 2/4/2009 2:07 PM (GMT -7)   
My heart goes out to you. It must be so hard to be away from your family right now. I don't know what to tell you to do - only you can decide what is best for you. How long do you plan on being in London? Do you have anyone in London that is a support system for you?
10 yr old daughter diagnosed with "UC-like Crohn's" 12/08
currently on 2400 mg Asacol and 50 mg 6-MP

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   Posted 2/4/2009 2:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi What's up with all these operations? Hope you can reduce some that schdule ,it sounds harsh. Give up on some of the stuff and stick with the important things you need to do. Any chance you can finish your education closer to home. lol gail
Hallarious woman over 50 ,CD ,IBS 27 years--resection,fistula's,obstructions,hemmies,and still gail

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   Posted 2/4/2009 2:54 PM (GMT -7)   
((((Dreamer06)))) You poor thing, sounds as if you are really having a hard time right now. My personal opinion is I think that your health is much more important than anything else. I think right now, you need to do what is best for your health, and maybe that includes dropping the class. You are very ill, so don't feel you are letting anyone down. You and your health are the most important things. If you think you can make it to fly home, I think that is what I would do. I really think you need some help and support, and with Mom being so far away, I think that would be the best for you. I will definetly keep you in my prayers that you get your Crohns under control soon.

Gail *Nanners*
Gail*Nanners* Co-Moderator for Anxiety/Panic Forum
Been living with Crohn's Disease for 33 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, and Calcium and Xanax as needed. Resections in 2002 and 2005. Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Osteoarthritis and Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission.
*Every tomorrow has two handles.  We can take hold of it by the handle of anxiety, or by the handle of faith"*

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Date Joined Dec 2007
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   Posted 2/4/2009 3:25 PM (GMT -7)   

You say you've had Crohn's for a year, the first year or so is often the hardest as you're still adjusting to it and your 'do's and don'ts' etc.

I don't know if you'r registered with the disability service at your uni, I'm at uni in England and here we have a brilliant disability service, they helped me with stuff such as getting extra equipment (such as recording equipment for when I feel I can't write notes in lectures)  all students here with a chronic illness are given extenuating circumstances when applied for so you can get an extra 4 weeks on deadlines for when symptoms etc mean your struggling to get work in and an extra try at exams and assessments without the mark being capped if you felt you couldn't work to the best of your ability, I spoke to my lecturers and seminar leaders about my illness as quite often I can't make them especially if they're early in the morning or when I have to take time out to go to appointments etc. and they all looked out for someone in the lectures who wrote lots of notes and asked them to make photocopies which they then gave me to as well as offering recordings so that when I miss a lecture or seminar I'm really thoroughly caught up and can do so when I feel enough. The disability service also told me it is possible to spread your uni year over 2 years so you do half time for 2 years rather than full time for 1 to ease the work load.

I have heard that students with chronic illnesses often take longer to complete degrees but there is brilliant help and support, if you decide to go home I'm sure they'd be happy to suspend your course for you to return to complete if and when you feel up to/decide to. It must be hard being away and dealing with this illness, I hope you find the support you need whatever you decide to do and most of all that you feel better soon!


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   Posted 2/4/2009 3:39 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree w/ Nanners. Also, is there any way mom could fly out for a month or so and spend some time w/ you?
27 Year old married female law student (last year!!). Diagnosed w/ CD 4 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. I am sort of lactose intollerant too but can handle anything cultured and do well w/ lactose pills and lactaid. For crohns I am currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day and hysociamine prn. I also have bad acid reflux and have been on PPI's since age 13. I have been through prilosec, prevacid, and nexium. Currently I am on Protonix in the morning and Zantac at night. I also take a birth control pill to allow some fun in my life.

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   Posted 2/4/2009 5:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Sounds like you're really pushing yourself... You should try lightening your load, if at all possible... I'm 20 years old, too.... So, I kind of know where you're coming from (I'm not studying abroad, but I don't have much of a support system myself... and I am in college, and have been sick while in college.) I'm doing a lot better, now... but I'm still taking it easy.... *Taking only 12 credit hours instead of the maximum or close to the maximum* Try not to feel like you're letting everyone down... You can't help that you have this stupid disease... :(
I think I am being picked on by life, sometimes. But's that okay. Life and I are good buddies... I know life doesn't mean no harm. It just is the way it is. I can accept that.

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Date Joined Dec 2008
Total Posts : 63
   Posted 2/4/2009 6:19 PM (GMT -7)   
You are not alone. I going to have surgery very soon too. my family also in the other side of the planet. It is only me and my spouse live here in the US. don't be discouraged and do what ever best for you and god bless you and be with you any where you are in the planet.

best of luck
Age: 28
Diagnosed with CD JAN, 08.
Meds: Prednisone(40mg), Pentasa (4mg), Hydrocodone, prilosec, Fish oil, Multivitamins untill(01/27)
Surgeries: Right now I'm at the Hospital (Hotel) waiting for my Abscesses to be drained then I will have a Laparoscopic Resection Surgery. I’m very excited.
New med's at the hospital: Flagyl (1500mg/Day), levaquin(500mg/Day),Hydrocortisone(300mg/Day) ,Lovenox(40mg/Day) for clotting, regular insulin, dilaudid as needed (1 mg/4 Hr's)
TPN with lipids at night.
Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.

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