How do we Crohnies avoid embarrassing situations?

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   Posted 3/6/2009 5:55 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm getting ready to go on an 8 day vacation with my boyfriend. He knows I have Crohn's, but I don't think he knows the extent of it all. On top of that, we're staying with his grandparents who I don't think know anything at all about Crohn's. Every morning I'm sick to my stomach and the whole thing, combined with having gas, is embarrassing. I mean, I can be in the bathroom for half an hour some mornings. Has anyone else had to deal with this? How do we Crohnies avoid embarrassing situations?

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   Posted 3/6/2009 6:21 AM (GMT -7)   

Dont stress out too much about will only make things worse...this is who you are, and I am sure that everyone there will understand...hope everything works out well for you





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   Posted 3/6/2009 7:41 AM (GMT -7)   
You need to come clean to your boyfriend. I don't know how long you've known each other but if your vacationing together then it's time to tell him what your dealing with. If you've been trying to hide the extent of your issues with Crohn's then he probably already has an idea that something is up and by explaining what is going on it will be a relief to both of you. I am single and I know it's difficult to talk about but once you lay all your cards on the table it is very liberating. You'll be glad to clear your mind and he'll be glad you trusted him enough to be honest. Do both of you a favor and just do it. Best wishes.

Crohns 30 years. Ileostomy for 15 years. Symptom free for 14 years until 6 months ago. Now on Remicade and iron. Feeling like a champ!
God Bless. Tony

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   Posted 3/6/2009 11:30 AM (GMT -7)   
I agree with the other posters.  I was dating someone for a while, and he always knew I had Crohns but I never quite told him that I would spend hours in the bathroom, and all that goes along with it. As far as he was concerned I just always had a "tummy ache"  Then one day he called me and told me he had just looked up crohns online and researched it, he was actually in tears because of all the things he read, and was honestly hurt that I didnt explain everything to him.  I told him it was mostly because I was embarrassed, and at the time almost humiliating for me to talk about it.  As hard as it may be, its better just to be upfront and honest because eventually its all going to come out, and Id rather have an embarrassing moment or emergency with someone who knows exactly whats going on and understands, then with someone who is completely ignorant to it.

Dianogsed with Crohns: At 16 years old. 22 years old now.
Surgeries:2 Bowel Resections, Gallbladder Removed.
Current Meds: Humira (bi-weekly)

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   Posted 3/6/2009 9:28 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree, it's just difficult to talk about. He does know some details, and he's already done some research on his own. He just doesn't know what part of it affects me and how. I appreciate all your encouraging words. Ironically enough, we did talk a little about it today.

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   Posted 3/6/2009 9:39 PM (GMT -7)   
I am sure he'll be understanding and supportive - it sounds that way with him already doing research on his own, which is great. My husband is wonderful with this, and it is embarassing to discuss with him so I usually spare the details, but I think he knows what is going on. Don't worry about being embarrassed, and enjoy your trip!
Diagnosed with Crohn's Disease; Meds: Entocort & Asacol; female in late 20s.

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   Posted 3/7/2009 4:59 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi I'am thinking that we cain't avoid all situations that are bad but a little bottle of deordorizer in the travel bag might help ..and you could always run the hair blower when going and hopefully there is a window.. ask your boyfriend about the house lay out maybe... just getting into a comfortable state of mind is about the only suggestion I can make ...the important thing is to feel comfortable with your boyfriend so at least you have someone that you feel comfortable with..have fun by the way how is your crohn's now ? lol gail
Hallarious woman over 50 ,CD ,IBS 27 years--resection,fistula's,obstructions,hemmies,and still gail

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