Intimacy & Anal Skin Tags

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Date Joined Aug 2006
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   Posted 3/8/2009 9:26 AM (GMT -7)   
I am a 46 year old woman with Crohn's. Diagnosed 4 years ago. I've recently met someone. I have no problems telling him I have Crohn's. I am leary about bringing up my anal skin tags. I don't want him to discover them in the heat of the moment.

How have others handled this? I'm curious.

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Date Joined Jul 2005
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   Posted 3/8/2009 11:01 AM (GMT -7)   
I usually made some sort of a "joke"out of it somehow. Like "keep away from my backdoor" type of joke. Lol. And I have become a master of maneuvering in stealth, so that the parts I don't want seen remain as hidden as possible. My hubby still doesn't understand why I will NOT get naked in the afternoon sunlight on the sofa. "Well, deary" I tell him, "It really IS for your own good!"
27f, dx'd CD July '05 after 6 fistula/abscess surgeries
Remicade '05 through '08, with no other maintenance meds
Noticing a real difference with a Gluten-Free diet.
Currently on:
Cimzia (loading doses 2-12-09)
Probiotics, Digestive Enzymes, and Prednisone

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Date Joined Jan 2006
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   Posted 3/9/2009 11:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi VA! I have some pretty nasty tags. It sounds like you already have had good talks on CD in mind. My first date with my now husband, I pulled out 16 pills to have with dinner and said "you might as well see these as I take them a lot". Luckily he asked a lot of good questions. I told him that I had these things like lumps that come out of my intestines on my tushy. They are sensitive to touch and I am sensitive to you knowing about them. Just was completely honest that i was squeamish about him seeing or even knowing about them. He was very understanding about my having them. It took some time to break him of his tushy grabbing habits. I just had an elementary school level of description ready for anything he had a question on - no gory details, just basic descriptions of what it looked like (think cartoon drawing versus anatomy class) and basic descriptions of how things hurt (think this hurts like a bad paper cut, or hurts like a stabbing knife or hurts not at all)
Dx'd '90 (emergency rupture), symptoms ignored long before that, '03 fistulas and bad flagyl reactions, B12 weekly, Pentasa [until I surrender to the bigger meds]
I'm riding on the escalator of life....

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Date Joined Aug 2006
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   Posted 3/9/2009 5:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for your suggestions folks. It really helps me get my brain around how to talk about them.

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Date Joined Feb 2004
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   Posted 3/9/2009 7:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Luckily I've been with my husband long before CD...we got together when we were teens and although in my teens my perianal crohn's skin tags appeard out of the blue (with absolutely NO OTHER CD symptoms until after I had my first baby in 1991) my hubby was never bothered by them, although after I had my first baby and my skin tags were mistaken for hemheroides and I had them banded while they were flaring, they certainly are bigger since then compared to what they ever were, and I developed more than what I had as a teen, when I was a teen I would just get one.

Even though hubby says he isn't bothered by them I can't help but feel like he's saying so for my sake because he knows how big and ugly they are and that I'm extreamly emabarassed by them...luckily though, that's not the area he's interested in so he says it doesn't bother him (mind you, they are so big now that they take up the space between the anus and the vagina (you know, the "taint", taint the anus, taint the vagina area), yet they don't interfere with intimacy (yet that is and I hope they never do).

My bum is broken....there's a big crack down the middle of it! LOL :)

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