This topic always fires me up. I'm so SICK AND TIRED of hearing people, who I've TRUSTED ENOUGH to even tell them I have Crohn's to begin with, ask me about FOOD! "Well, what'd you eat last night? Is that why you don't feel good today?" Grrrr! IT'S NOT about FOOD!!!
I don't know how many times I have to tell them I have NO TRIGGER FOODS. But they don't even take the time to understand what THAT even means. Food doesn't CAUSE me to flare, I flare because it's the dern nature of my disease! Do they just not want me to eat at all?!
I did get a nice break from that kind of stuff this week when I was at my surgeon's office. I'm having my gall bladder removed in 2 weeks. I was telling the girls at my surgeon's office that my "girlfriends" at work all keep saying, "Oh, when you get that gall bladder out with those nasty stones, you are going to be feeling SO much better!" Well, MAYBE. But I'm in a Crohn's flare right now and taking my gall bladder out isn't going to just miraculously take away my flare. THEY think I've been sick the past few months because of the gall stones because THEY along with everyone else understand gall stones...everyone KNOWS someone who's had their gall bladder removed. They just can't wrap their brain around a Crohn's Disease flare. So one of the girls at the surgeon's office said to me in a COMICAL, sarcastic tone, "The problem is, you don't LOOK sick." She said she totally knew what I was talking about because her sister has RA & Lupus and she gets smart-aleck comments like us Crohnies do all the time.
I really DO try to be patient when my friends make comments that rub me the wrong way...because they DON'T have an auto-immune disease and because I KNOW their heart is in the right place; they just want to give opinions to show they care about what's going on with me...they just don't get that some of their "opinions" anger me.
I'm sure everyone on this board has a story similar to yours.