When I read your post, I was getting angry at him for putting such pressure on you.
"...he has found my illness quite hard to deal with at times..."
Yeah? Does he think *you* are having a picnic dealing with it daily?
Then I read through the other replies and realized that it *does* affect him and that perhaps this isn't such a bad thing to discuss. If he is The One, there will be compassion and understanding. My husband is very understanding, but at times, I feel as if I disappoint him because of our numerous side-stops for bathrooms or my begging out of an outing. I want to advise you:
DO NOT TRY TO DO WHAT I HAVE DONE:
I have tried to ignore my illness and pretend everything is fine/normal so I don't *spoil* one of our outings together. This usually ends in tragedy for my undergarments, especially if I ignore that little pain on the left side, the gurgle or I try to eat a meal in the car as we drive instead of going inside so I have the bathroom available. I cannot stand to hear him *sigh* as I am panicking and trying to scramble into the back seat to use "the bucket" just after we passed a service station. Sometimes, I just don't have the luxury of time and I cannot plan my urges, they occur whenever/wherever they want. I do not have control over them. The only thing I *can* do, is be certain to heed every warning signal my body is giving me so I don't inconvenience ourselves even more with needing to go home for a clean-up and clothing change.
Gentle hugs to you,
I have the ability of single-minded determination and accurate project focu....Hey, look, a cat!
Crohn's and UC are pretty darn crappy, but if you can't laugh at yourself, you'll cry......I'd much rather laugh.
2001 Dx'd with UC. No remission. No improvement with Remicade. 5/2008 surgery, removal of 6" of left side colon. Dx changed to Crohn's. Remission for 8-9wks after surgery, symptoms returned after resuming 6MP. Changed maintenance med to Methotrexate (MTX) and had great results with IM injections. Nausea and symptoms returning with oral MTX. Switched back to IM injections and am slowly improving.