Celine, it sounds to me as if your disease has not been adequately controlled, and that your doctor has not done the right thing in dismissing your concerns and telling you to come back in six months.
Your urgency issues could stem from a number of things, but I feel uncomfortable with self-diagnosis and can only recommend that you talk to an expert. If your g.i. won't help, then perhaps you could self-refer to your local continence clinic. I *know* that this would be an upsetting thing for you to do, but I suggest it because sometimes allied health workers can put some pressure on doctors to hurry along the diagnostic process. At the very least, they might be able to help you devise some coping strategies.
As far as your arthritis goes, I think it is important to remember that Remicade will not help all types of arthritis. Again, I think that this is something that needs to be checked out by an expert.
I think it is unreasonable of them to expect you to last another six months when you are feeling so sick and disabled, so perhaps you might benefit from talking to your g.p. and seeing if s/he can refer you to a rheumatologist and maybe some other specialists too.
Good luck, and hang in there,
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