hubby said the wrong thing...but was trying

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   Posted 7/7/2009 10:03 AM (GMT -7)   
My husband said last night that he wished I had some other disease.  When he saw the extreme look on my face, he quickly explained....It would be so much easier to say she has such and such type cancer.  He then realized he dug himself a big hole....but I got where he was was actually a very empathetic statement that he just couldn't word well.
He saw my frustration on the 4th of July trying to explain that I could not eat something when that person has seen me eat something similar.  He has watched me suffer the effort of trying to explain that not only is everyone different, but I am different every day.  Then  had other people expressing doubt that I actually had an illness.  I am always walking the line between giving too much detail and making this look too easy.
My husband and I tease each other a lot, but I just need to say that he is so special to me.  He may not have the right words, but he is so understanding and comforting when i feel ill.  He gets all the little weird things that change every day.  I feel very lucky and wanted to saw it "out loud" to those who appreciate these things.
Dx'd '90 (emergency rupture), symptoms ignored long before that, '03 fistulas and bad flagyl reactions, B12 weekly, Pentasa [until I surrender to the bigger meds]
I'm riding on the escalator of life....

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   Posted 7/7/2009 10:21 AM (GMT -7)   
I "do" appreciate this thing. I too am amazed with how blessed I am to have such a supportive spouse. My husband has been with me during the my hardest years with this disease. He has done the wet/dry packings when I got an infection in my incision after a resection. When I had knee surgery, he was up and down with me all night either getting my ice packs or helping me to the bathroom and never once has he complained. We truly are blessed to have the love and support of our husbands. Yeah, they don't always say the right thing, but we know where their heart really is and what they really do mean. My husband is my HERO.

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Been living with Crohn's Disease for 33 years. Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, Calcium  w/Vit D, and Xanax as needed for my anxiety.  Resections in 2002 and 2005. Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, Osteoarthritis, and Anxiety. Currently my Crohns is in remission, but my joints are going crazy!
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   Posted 7/7/2009 3:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Dont' forget the wives too. My wife has been by my side through all hospital visits in the middle of the night to my surgery and taking care of me and has never once complained. She is my glass half full person. She truly is my angel taking care of me and I love her dearly.
Diagnosed with Crohns in 2001
First and hopefully last Ileocecectomy 2/18/2009

Medications: Asacol, Precription Folic Acid, Multivitamin, 1000mg Calcium, Vitamin D, Probiotics, Protonix,  Monthly B-12 injections.

Living a Great life with my Wife and my two Chocolate Labs
Hunter & Hailey.
I love them dearly.

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Date Joined Mar 2006
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   Posted 7/7/2009 8:44 PM (GMT -7)   
My husband is my rock and has been through all the bad things this disease has thrown at me. He even helps with my dilemmas over medication and makes me see that these meds are necessary for my wellbeing (just when Im ready to throw them down the toilet!). When my AS flares he runs the hot shower, heats the heatpad and dresses me.
So I say "cheers" to the spouses.

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Date Joined Apr 2009
Total Posts : 85
   Posted 7/7/2009 8:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Absolutely! I am so grateful for my spouse. After I had my daughter and had a severe flare, he brought my newborn daughter to see me in the hospital everyday. He even had to sneak her in sometimes, because we were told multiple times that she was no tsupposed to be up there on that particular unit. He had to be the daddy and mommy to her for the first few weeks, and I am so grateful for how he stepped up. I am so blessed to have such a wonderful partner!
Currently taking: Humira 40mg/every other week, Zoloft 50 mg/day, vitamins and supplements
Have taken: Cyclosporine, Pentasa/Asacol, Aciphex, Imuran, Sulfasalizine, Cipro & Flagyl, Prednisone, various pain med's, Xanax
Surgeries: Appendectomy 2001, Ileocecotomy 2007

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