I thought I would reply and add to this forum because I was searching for help and the anxiety of one of the mums on the board made me feel that perhaps I am NOT going crazy. I need help because my husband can't help me anymore and friends don't want to know.
I have had four surgeries this year. The last one was the fibran glue to seal it all up. Its been a month since that surgery. I been thruogh the drains, the setons, the waiting. Now I thought I was on the home stretch. But still, NO, yet again, I think I am going insane. The scar will not heal. After another round of antibotics and three days repreive it finally healed. Oh my God, I thought, I am going back to Yoga, I am going to smile more. Be more positive, optimistic...blah blah
Then last night at 4pm it hurt to sit down. Oh no, please dear God. And there it was , right in the middle of the scar is STUFF, yes, stuff that needs to be pushed out. So yhet again the skin is broken, its sore and bordering on needing antibotics. So it would appear I am healing, then getting sore again and healing , then getting sore again. I dont see my surgeon for another month but I can go on. I have bipolar disorder, so my anxiety and ups and downs are difficult as it is. But now, I'm thinking, this operation has not been a success. I am self diagonizing myself again. I can't get out of bed. Whats the point. I feel down again.
I can't try and see the surgeon till next week and then will I go on a healed doy or a puss day. My husband yelled at me last night because he said I am doing it all wrong. But what am I doing wrong. I am trying, I am trying to get on with life but what am I doing wrong. Its been a year now of no intimacy, a year of looking at my bum. I look at my bum on average five to six times a day. I am going Insane. I am going to go completely mental. I don't see a light at the end of the tunnel. Has anyone , I mean anyone ever got over this fistualla deal or is it the rest of my life. I don't have Chron's , so they say. But I do have a whole in my bum and it makes me feel dirty, it makes me feel defeated, it makes me feel OUT OF CONTROL, it makes me frustrated, angry and alone. Worst, it makes me feel alone and sad.
I need support.
My name is Billy and I am a 47 year old mum and artist and I live in Australia. I need support. Any support, any emails, anything at all. I just can't get out of bed today. I am just so alone. Billy
I would like to get in contact with poorlybot. I tried to email you personally but it blocked me. Please send me your email or facebook page. I think we are in the exact same place. I need someone to talk to. I could ring you on Skype. Or I could email you. I need a friend and I think you do also. Billy (Belinda)
Post Edited (ArtistMum) : 8/28/2009 5:51:12 PM (GMT-6)