Well that didn't last long - I've outed myself already at my new job :)

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   Posted 9/24/2009 9:11 PM (GMT -7)   
As you recall, I have always been a proponent of being very open and honest about my crohns.  I just found it made my day to day life easier.  Then some wonderful fellow members that work in law advised me that as I enter the field I may want to be more hush hush as it is a more cut throat environment.  So, I started my new job w/ the idea that I wouldn't mention it unless absolutely necessary.  That lasted just under two weeks lol.
I thought it wasn't going to be a problem at all as my office is really close to a bathroom and I am more or less in remission.  Someone noticed my soy milk in the fridge and asked if I was lactose intollerant in the first week.  I answered honestly and said yes but didn't mention crohns.  Someone else asked about my purple got guts bracelet (totally forgot I wear it all the time!!!) and before I could answer we got on a different subject. 
Then, earlier this week, I just woke up having "one of those mornings."  I could not stay out of the bathroom.  My assistant sits across from my office and clearly knew something was up.  I mentioned that I wasn't feeling well and left it at that.  Then, someone way senior comes in my office and asks if I would like to accompany him to a client meeting in the big city (45 minutes away on a good day).  Now this is the kind of opportunity I have been waiting for.  I of course would love to... but of all days!!! So, I just say yes at first (people here tend to travel on a bus w/ a bathroom) and then he mentions he will be driving because he will be in a meeting at the time the bus leaves.  Yikes.... I am in no way shape or form capable of traveling in a car, in the city, with someone I barely know at this point.  I mention that since I wasn't feeling great I would probably take the bus down, work in the city office for a bit and then meet him for the meeting.  This goes over surprisingly well but is followed up with the all to predictable concern given the swine flu fears.  "Well, if you aren't feeling well do you need to go home?"  Sigh.  The time has come.  (Now, I know some of you might think I was being paranoid about my ability to get through this trip but this was one of those days I really couldn't get off the pot.)  So, I shut my office door and just said, no, I am fine.  I actually have crohns disease which is a digestive disorder.  99% of the time I am happy, healthy, and fine, but on occasional days my stomach just goes off.  I am fine to work I just need to be near a bathroom."  He seemed fine with it and was pleased I still wanted to go.
I took the bus (and 3 immodium and a xanax) slept the ride down, and felt much better when I got there.  The meeting went great and then we ended up all going to lunch, at some little stand, in an office building.  I had to pee and couldn't find a restroom.  Security said I had to be an employee of that office building to use it even though we had bought our lunches there, and sat and ate them.  It is actually a violation of the state health code but luckily we were just a block from our other office and it wasn't a crohns emergency.  But boy, did it make me anxious. 
I actually felt good enough that I hitched a ride back north w/ the senior guy and got lots of compliments on my work so far.  So, I am not totally "out" but someone now does know.  I felt it was a need to tell situation.  I wanted him to know I was enthusiastic for the work just facing a dilemna that day.  I just worry that in a small business (50-100 employees) that my health problems could drive up everyones insurance rates.  But I'm sure everyone has something.
PS: I find out if I passed the bar tomorrow!

27 Year old married female.  Graduated law school this year and waiting for results of the bar exam.  Start a new job sometime in September.  Diagnosed w/ CD 4 years ago, IBS for over 10 years before that, which was probably the CD. I am sort of lactose intollerant too but can handle anything cultured and do well w/ lactose pills and lactaid. For crohns I am currently on Pentasa 4 pills/4x day and hysociamine prn. I also have bad acid reflux and have been on PPI's since age 13. I have been through prilosec, prevacid, and nexium. Currently I am on Protonix in the morning and Zantac at night.  I take xanax prn for situational anxiety (aka no easy bathroom access). 

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Date Joined Jul 2009
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   Posted 9/24/2009 9:27 PM (GMT -7)   
well.its sounds like it worked out okay..right? thats all that matters...its so hard for someone..who is healthy..to understand..a chronic..illness..their are times i wish i could just keep the toilet..right under me all day lol....hope you pass the bar!

 Crohn's anal fistula Lupus Hyperthyroid..Pentasa Remicade


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   Posted 9/25/2009 3:29 AM (GMT -7)   
I didn't tell my boss until last week. I've been there for 5 years. But I was in remission. Until about a month ago. Turns out, his sis-in-law has Crohn's and he knows how bad it can be.
Stephanie, 29, married for 10 wonderful years and mommy to two awesome toddlers
dx with Crohn's 4/2003, in remission from 11/2003 to 7/2009
omeprazole 40mg, zoloft 100mg, apriso 1500mg, dicyclomine 3/day
dx with bipolar II 8/2009, re-diagnosed with bipolar I 9/09
Apparently allergic to lamictal...waiting on next rx

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Date Joined Sep 2008
Total Posts : 457
   Posted 9/25/2009 3:56 AM (GMT -7)   
The job sounds exciting. I'm sure your boss thought it was no big deal because you handled the situation so well and you didn't let hold you back. He is probably thinking about how well you did in the meeting and has dismissed the rest.

You are right about the insurance.... everyone has something. If not them, then in their family.
Good luck on passing the bar.
Dx'd with Crohns 1984 and polycystic kidney disease in 1996
Bowel Resection surgery 2006, Now on Asacol, Endocort, folic acid, and Enalapril,

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Date Joined May 2009
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   Posted 9/25/2009 5:05 AM (GMT -7)   
I don't tell anyone at work until I miss some time because I'm in the hospital lol. Best of luck with passing the bar.
Diagnosed with CD July 2007
Currently on Remicade, Imuran, probiotics, folic acid, multivitamin.

Amor fati - Nietzsche

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Date Joined Feb 2005
Total Posts : 455
   Posted 9/25/2009 5:34 AM (GMT -7)   
yeah i didn't tell anyone until I found out someone have UC that I worked with. Nice to have a sidekick lol.
SCD since 01, remission since 01, occasional random junk food breaks :)
No meds ever.

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Date Joined Jun 2006
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   Posted 9/25/2009 7:01 AM (GMT -7)   
I didn't have much of a choice telling my coworkers because we were a small, tight-knit office and they all watched my health disintegrate before their eyes in the months leading up to my diagnosis. As embarrassing as it can be to talk about, they were all super helpful in the early months when I would be sick every morning, so I was very happy to have it out in the open. I'm glad it went so smoothly for you and good luck today finding out your bar results!
29f, PhD student, originally diagnosed 2/06.
09/09: diagnosis being questioned due to lack of evidence of disease.
Next step: seeing rheumatologist
Currently taking: 2g Pentasa, tapering from 20mg prednisone, 150mg Trazadone, multivitamin, vitamin D supplement

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Date Joined Apr 2005
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   Posted 9/25/2009 1:29 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm so glad it all worked out for you. And it really is true that everyone has something. In fact its amazing how many people have an IBD or know someone who does. When I was diagnosed I was already working at the job I had most of my working career so there was no hiding it, it was a 2 person operation, me and my boss. It turned out that his wife has Crohn's.

Keeping everything crossed on the bar exam. Make sure you let us know as soon as you hear!!!

CD 20 years officially, 30 unofficially. 3 resections '93, '95 '97
Managing with strict low residue diet, keeping symptoms to a minimum. All test show small amount of ulceration, still have occasional blockages. But still have a great time with my 2 daughters and husband!

Prednisone, 6MP,Prevacid, B12 shots, Bentyl, Xifaxan.....

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