Getting a second opinion - does it offend your reg doctor?

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   Posted 10/29/2009 10:53 AM (GMT -7)   
I am going to get a second opinion at Mayo Clinic. If I return to my original doctor - is that going to wierd or do they take offense when you get a second opinon?


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   Posted 10/29/2009 12:38 PM (GMT -7)   
SOME doctors MIGHT be offended. But the majority would not. Who can speak for how any other individual thinks about a particular situation. Certainly, given your choice of Mayo Clinic to go to for your second opinion is NOT an insult!
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   Posted 10/29/2009 2:07 PM (GMT -7)   
My doc, who I consider a Godsend, would not be offended at all. We had a conversation about "what ifs". What if I need surgery, etc. Basically the worst case scenarios. He said upfront that he would seek a 2d opinion before doing anything drastic. I really like him. He literally will spend 20min talking to me if I need it.
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   Posted 10/29/2009 4:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Offended mine I think...
made me pay.25 per document, to fax medical records.
20 years worth..I was happy to pay, and re-take all the tests:)
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   Posted 10/29/2009 5:01 PM (GMT -7)   
My first GI told me to get a second opinion and, when I did, he wouldn't see me after that...he said the 2nd GI was my new doctor.  He gave me one free set of my records (they have to by law where I live), but when my second GI wouldn't give me a copy of them to take to my third GI, the first GI tried to charge me $1.00 per page for another set of copies (for a 85 page file).  I said no thanks, I'll do it by memory. 
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   Posted 10/29/2009 5:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Humm I think it depends on the doc, but I think seeing someone who only sees IBD is a good idea.
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   Posted 10/29/2009 7:17 PM (GMT -7)   
I think my Gastro would be glad to see the back of me!
I do think that the next Gastro would probably wonder why, after all these years, that I was switching as she is well-liked/respected and they are, after all. her colleagues (being at the same hospital)
Im in a darned if I do darned if I dont situation with her.
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   Posted 10/30/2009 7:50 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree SydneyJo,
My old Gastro is well liked in my hospital and medical profession.
My new Gastro said he knows my old Gastro,and this happens all the time.
I was mad at him,he was mad at me,no trust either way...
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   Posted 10/31/2009 11:54 AM (GMT -7)   
They should not get offended, just pay attention to how you word it to your doctor, keep their ego in mind I mean to say.

I am going to get another idea about my situation, I want to explore all of my options.

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   Posted 11/1/2009 12:06 PM (GMT -7)   
I could see how getting a second opinion could bruise a doctor's ego but I think if you mention it to them beforehand, it might go a little better. If you just get the second opinion and then say "oh by the way...I know we've been working together but I saw someone else and they think we should be doing something else"... they may feel like you've gone behind their back and don't trust them or they could feel like "why am I doing all this work when they are just going to get someone else to help them". Hopefully you have understanding GI's who really just want what's best for you and if that's the case...they shouldn't mind you getting a second opinion.
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   Posted 11/1/2009 7:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Mine would not be offended. He would understand that I'd want someone else's opinion because it's dealing with my body. Don't stress. You have Crohn's....I would think your doctor would understand.

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   Posted 11/1/2009 7:48 PM (GMT -7)   
My very first GI was actually scared of me getting a second opinion. He wanted to do surgery just to get it out of the way, since I was paying him out of my pocket.. and thought it would be cheaper? My mom called him wanting my medical records to transfer to a Uni Hospital. Boy he was nervous about losing me as a patient and decided to try a different route.

I've changed GI's since then, found a much nicer one who I trust completely. I know if I wanted a second opinion, he'd support me 100 percent. Goodluck :).

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   Posted 11/1/2009 9:11 PM (GMT -7)   
My GI has encouraged me on several occasions to get a second opinion when we ran into something where an expert in a particular area could be helpful. For example, she referred me to a nutritionist for questions I had about the SCD. She also referred me to a specialist on strictures because I have them something bad ... she is pretty cool :-)
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