PV-Thank you! I will definitely inquire about
the hospital payments. I'm pulling my hair out right now with all of this silly frustration, but if I can quicken the process anymore than I see reason not to.
And yes, my fiance is wonderful...I really am serious when I say I probably would have ended my life had he not been here to support me.
Tom-Antibiotics are generally prescribed just in case there is a UTI since it mimics IC symptoms, but IC is yet another autoimmune disease which requires special medication...It's exactly like Crohn's except it's in the bladder. I'm certain the two are linked as well. I know there has been some research done lately that indicates "cross talk" between certain organs, and the intestines seem to be linked to the bladder in many different ways. Maybe it will lead to research for both diseases! I would hope so anyway...
As for help from my parents, my mother does everything she can. She's been quite wonderful throughout all of this, but she and my stepdad together make below poverty level income. They're already taking care of two younger children as well. I couldn't ask for assistance from people who are already spread as thin as I am (and worse I should think since I have no children to take care of).
As for my father, asking him for help is like pulling teeth. It took months of "negotiating" before he realized my money was going to necessities rather than frivolous spending, and even then he is loathe to put money my way. He's always been pretty
his favoritism among my siblings and I, and I was always at the bottom. Waking up for school when I was younger consisted of having my hair yanked or being pinched rather hard in order to amuse him. The harder I cried, the more he laughed, and I remember my mother, grandmother, and aunt all begging him to quit :/ I've never been anywhere near his favorite, needless to say. Happy memories!
Yes, he is *very* well off financially (hence the huge house and new BMW), but when he has to put any money towards me he seems to complain more than be grateful that he can provide for his children. There isn't much I can do about
it, but keep trying to let him now grateful I am for the help he has given. I only wish he were able to look at it as something more than "You know, I have to spend a LOT of money on you guys." He's not paying for college, didn't have to help with my car, didn't pay for insurance for his kids all the way until I turned 19 (because a new job offered it), and deliberately lied about
income in divorce court to avoid paying more child support. He has a lot of growing up to do. I still love him no matter what, but I highly disagree with his opinion on money and children, and it's difficult to ask him for help in light of that. He's too focused on "me, me, me." It's how he was raised.
I do agree with your positivity though! I know things will get better...I'm just feeling puny at the moment. I had things on track as far Crohn's went, and then this second disease decided to show up. But that's life!! I still complain anyway...I'm human :) I am very glad my fiance is still here, and certain parts of family are very supportive. My gripes are about
health issues, broken promises from friends, and greed from the few family members who actually have the ability to help.
But again, there's not much I can do is there? I'll deal with it as best as I can. I just have that habit of wishful thinking.
Diagnosed with Crohn's in May of 2008.
Currently taking: Prednisone, pentasa, omeprazole, and humira. Using probiotics and a multivitamin.bonniegriffith.blogspot.com/
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"He who has a why to live for can bear with almost any how."