*hugs* We all have to vent from time to time. It's difficult to go from healthy to now for many.
I've always had problems with my stomach, so I'm kind of used to it. But flares are painful and emotionally draining.
I became sick when I was nineteen or twenty. College was not the same experience for me as it was for other people, but it's okay. Really. What do you get out of drinking? Believe me, I like cocktails and drinks. But when I drink all I get is a burning stomach and I'm sick for days I also would have to say that having Crohn's does not mean you can't have sex. Sometimes you can't on bad days, but it's not forever. Otherwise, none of us chronies would have kids. I had a love life and let me tell you that if you find the right person, they will understand that you can't have sex on bad days, that you don't feel up to going out to eat, and they'll be there for you when you need them. Another thing, eating out: . Unless you're eating all natural when you're at a restaurant, bad idea. I actually learned from someone on this forum to eat all natural. It was the best advice EVER. Eat before you go out and order a drink if you can tolerate it, like tea or lemonade. I can't have either. If you can't handle anything other than water, then order water. Or a dish that isn't breaded or has a sauce. Get something like a steak and veggies or mashed potatoes or stick to bread, something safe.
You'll learn as time progresses. For now you should focus on finding foods that fit your tummy's needs. This will make life with Crohn's much easier.
Going two to three times is fantastic by Crohn's standards. Some don't go and others have the big D all day. I used to go 8-10 times a day, liquid, and picasso poop (feels like glass cut at different angles). It was terrible. Now I'm constipated. All the time..with intestinal pain all day every day. And yet, when I get on here and I see what other people go through because of Crohn's I realize I have it soooo much easier. On bad days my best friends are a hot water bottle/electric heating pad, desitin (yes, the baby butt cream), and my bed. Unfortunately, I can't stay in bed all day but I can definitely carry my hot water bottle around .
Also, you may want to discuss getting on an anti-depressant with your doctor to help you cope. Our emotional being can really affect our physical being. Don't isolate yourself because once you've coped and once you're flare is over, you're going to want to hang out with your friends. It will only make you more depressed. And the fact that you're jealous that your parents are healthier than you is not okay. You've admitted that you're depressed, now seek help!
about your Gastro--Look for someone you're comfortable with. You need someone with good bedside manner. This is a must for me. I travel an hour and half to see my gastro, but he is glorious! He understands my emotions and symptoms. He fits my needs. Find a doctor that fits your needs.
Just a few of my thoughts. Remember we're here for you, so vent as much as you need but be ready for some tough love!