Not to scare you but that's exactly how my ex husband was,He didn't help me do anything.I still worked,cooked,cleaned,entertained,did all the washing and basically everything.The only time He would go with me to anything medical was when He had to take me to the ER because I couldn't get there myself,due to being in agony and throwing up everywhere.I think you should talk to him about it, you need the support of your husband and if He wants a child as well it will put more pressure and stress on you.
I think there are a lot of times that you probably need help to do things ,especially if you are flaring and another little person to look after,you will need help.
I was in a slightly different situation as I already had 3 children, the eldest was old enough to help me at the time I was really bad,and she was very good and the other 2 would help me where they could.But they watched their father do absolutely nothing and I think they also lost respect for him, as they could see how much stress and pain etc I was under.
Please speak to him before it gets too bad, I think me doing things 'alone' was partly what caused our break up in marriage,as eventually I came to resent him.
I know you said your mother said she would help too, I would except her help but also get your husband involved too,although he might not be able to make all your doctors appointments,maybe he could go to the important ones, not that there not all important,but if their are any decision making appointments, ask him if he would go with you as you think it important for him to know what's going on,maybe then he might open his eyes and see the struggle you are going through.
Good luck and hope it all turns out well for you!
Michelle 40 years old
Diagnosed with CD 2004 (undiagnosed correctly +- 3 years, wrongly diagnosed with IBS)
Bowel resection 2005
medication: pentasa 500mg , Co-codomol 500mg/32mg codeine
loperamide 2mg (prn - take as many as 10-20 a day)
calcium tablets, multivitamin tablets, Omega 3
questran light (3 sachets/day), 3 monthly B12 Injections