Stress also seems to be a trigger for my husband. I remember he went into a flare right after he had a bad argument with his dad. Also, if I ever get upset with him, it affects his gut - he has to go potty right away. Hey, even I have that response, when I am tense or anxious - like I have to give a presentation or something, I find that I have to do it on an empty stomach. So anxiety, tension and stress can definitely affect the gut.
I have had to try to curtail my responses with my husband, so that I don't upset his gut too much. I would normally get annoyed at something and yell and him and then calm down perhaps, but I've had to try to change my normal mode of operation to letting him know that something he did is upsetting to me, rather than yell at him about
it. It doesn't happen a lot, but I sometimes feel like this disease has made our relationship better - because we talk things through, I make a conscious effort to not give in to anger, and we work things out without too much emotional drama.
On the other hand, I do sometimes wish I could just yell at him; instead now I go take a walk to calm down before I address the issue - yelling sometimes is therapeutic.
I would suggest that people in your family learn to address things in a less emotionally fraught way so as to not cause you so much physical pain. I have a vested interest in my husband staying healthy, so whenever I feel the urge to do something that I know will upset his gut or cause him stress, I try to mitigate that by cooling my heels a little . . . go for a walk, do the dishes, talk to someone else (like my mom) . . . something that will put some distance between me and what I'm angry about
, and 99 times out of 100, I find that after that little break, it just doesn't seem important or upsetting anymore. So, perhaps you can suggest this to your family members. It's healthy practice even if you aren't sick I think.
Husband with Crohn's
Diagnosed March 2003 Ulcerative Proctitis
Diagnosed March 2008 Crohn's & C-diff, hospitalized 45 days
Crohn's in Remission since June 2008
C-diff recurrence Sep 2009
Reactive Arthritis Nov 2009
Currently c-diff free
openia of spine (Mar 2010)
Canasa (1gm), Lialda (4.8 gms), Remicade (8 weeks)
Currently In Remission